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Jesse’s Advice for Raising Financially Responsible Kids

“I would love for you to do an episode with Jesse sometime on how he’s taught your kids about budgeting, money, setting up a bank account, etc.”

This request came in a few weeks ago, and I knew it would be a perfect podcast topic!

So, in this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, I interview Jesse on how has has instilled wise money management principles in our kids — especially as they have gotten older and have begun earning their own money.

He shares his thoughts on budgeting, when to have your kids open up their first bank accounts, how to teach your kids to view money as a tool, why letting your kids handle money from an early age can make such a difference, when he first learned to handle money, how to teach your kids the true value of money and how that translates to real life, and much more. It was fun to get to sit back and listen in as he shared his wisdom and advice.

Also, I should warn you that Jesse and I start the podcast in a bit of an uncharacteristic way… and if this is your first time to listen to one of our episodes, you might be a little, um, caught off guard?? We discuss a surprising discovery about asparagus and urine… and well, it goes a little off the rails. But I hope it makes you laugh! 🙂

In This Episode: 

[00:33] Learn a little bit more about Jesse’s 23andMe results. 😉

[03:26] Pelvic floor therapy is saving my life. 

[08:23] The Scribd App has been saving Jesse’s life and he’s been reading The Kill Artist by Daniel Silva

[12:06] I am reading Thriving in Love and Money

[15:51] When should parents start talking to their kids about money? 

[18:28] Is there a right age or a certain amount of maturity to be on the lookout for? 

[19:18] Which accounts should kids have? 

[20:27] Setting up budgets and spreadsheets.

[22:28] Should you teach your children all the same way or go with their interests and aptitudes? 

[27:26] Why learning the value of money at an early age is so important.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Our Family’s Top Five Favorite Games

Board games and card games can be such a great way to have some frugal fun! Best of all, once you’ve invested in a game, you can play it over and over and over again — without ever spending another dime!

In this week’s episode of the podcast, Jesse and I share our family’s top five favorite games. We had a very hard time narrowing the list down to just five, but we did it (well, we did mention a few other favorites at the end, because we just couldn’t help ourselves!)

The games we picked are ones we have played again and again and again. They are great for group games and most can be played with 4-6+ people.

In this episode, we also talk about Jesse’s 23&Me DNA test results (and why I don’t want to take the test!), a book recommendation from a reader, a video that had me smiling, and how Jesse is getting free coffee every day.

In This Episode: 

[00:33] Who’s ready to chat about our favorite games?

[01:15] Panera’s coffee is once again saving Jesse’s life. Listen in to find out how to get it FREE all summer!

[04:00] He also got his 23andMe results back and they were, um, interesting.

[07:35] What’s saving my life? Another YouTube video!

[09:20] Schindler’s List is also a book and it was recommended to us by one of our amazing listeners. 

[13:08] Who’s ready to talk about games?

[13:39] First up, Dutch Blitz, the card game — probably at the top of our list.

[15:07] Next is Double Ditto, a game my parents introduced us to.

[16:14] Another one is Ticket to Ride… which is Jesse and the kids’ favorite.

[18:36] I love Mad Gab — especially when played with a group.

[20:15] Last but certainly not least is Phase 10, a game we played a lot in our early marriage.

[22:06] A few more games that didn’t make our top 5 list.

[26:34] What are your favorite games?

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

“Could you share some parenting advice for raising my enneagram 8 daughter? She is very headstrong and persistent, but has a complete disregard for rules and regularly challenges authority. As an enneagram 5 (and people pleaser), I do not understand the way she thinks. We have gone around and around and I’ve tried to get to the heart is the issue. But it seems her bottom line is she is going to do whatever it takes to get what she wants. How do I help channel her perseverance and tenacity in a positive way? She is only 8 years old. -a podcast listener”

When I got this email in my inbox, I could relate so much — because I remember being that 8-year-old girl with a very strong personality. And truth be told, I think “headstrong” and “persistent” are two words that can still describe me as a 38-year-old woman!

Oftentimes, we hear people talk about their “strong-willed child” in a way that makes it seem so negative… as if a child’s will needs to be broken and replaced. But that’s like trying to strip someone of their God-given personality.

I believe that the character qualities of persistence and determination can be such a gift — to your home, to your community, and to the world. That’s why I want to encourage you to stop trying to stifle a child’s strong personality and instead embrace the strength that it can bring.

In this episode, Jesse and I share encouragement for parents who are raising strong kids. I share from the perspective of being a strong kid growing up and we both share from the perspective of raising a child who has a very strong personality.

In This Episode: 

[02:26] Why Swaddle Sacks have been a life-saver recently.

[04:53] I came down with mastitis on Tuesday, so here’s what’s been saving my life.

[07:59] My experience getting a Coronavirus test (Spoiler… it was negative!)

[10:59] A book update on Get Out of Your Head.

[14:07] We’re chatting all about raising strong-willed kids.

[16:21] It’s okay if you can’t relate with your kids, but seeking to understand them is so important.

[17:16] Why rules for an Enneagram 8 are very restrictive.

[19:29] Change your mindset and see the desire for independence as a blessing.

[21:03] Stop using negative labels to define your kids.

[22:07] How studying personality typings can be so beneficial.

[24:26] Celebrate their strengths because they really are gifts.

[26:11] Say yes as often as possible for your child.

[29:45] Don’t overly protect your kids from struggle and failure.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Our Favorite TV Shows

One of the things our family loves to do together is watch shows and movies. Recently, someone asked what our favorite shows are to watch together as a family. So, we all talked together as a family and compiled a list of some of the shows we’ve most enjoyed together.

On this week’s podcast episode, we share that list + we talk about why we don’t have a TV in our living room and how we approach being intentional and careful in our TV-watching.

We also talk about a book we’re finishing together as a family, the Panera unlimited coffee subscription, and a YouTube video I’ve rewatched multiple times.

In This Episode: 

[00:36] Welcome back to the show… and a semi-apology from Jesse. 😉

[02:46] Panera Bread’s unlimited coffee subscription is saving Jesse’s life. 

[06:28] The Squirrel Ninja Obstacle Course is something I’ve been loving!

[09:33] We’ve been reading Job in the Bible together and Jesse is excited about the next Brad Thor book, Near Dark

[11:49] The kids and I have been reading The Boy on the Wooden Box.

[15:25] This week we’re talking about our favorite TV shows!

[16:35] Why we don’t have a TV in our living room.

[19:14] Our TV is in our bedroom but we pretty much only watch it as a family. 

[20:57] Do your research before watching shows with your kids. 

[22:33] Why we loved Timeless and are sad that it was cancelled.

[24:58] Our family loves This Is Us as well, but we started this one off with just us before sharing with our kids. 

[27:03] We’re just starting watching some seasons of Survivor together.

[28:15] We used to watch The Apprentice way back when Kathrynne was little, so we’ve enjoyed introducing our kids to it.

[29:15] The Amazing Race is another one of our favorites because we love to travel.

[30:25] Last, but not least, is Designated Survivor. (Please only watch the first two seasons!)

Links and Resources:

Kierstyn’s Birth Story

We’re back! Jesse and I have really missed recording podcasts, but it was also nice to take a break and figure out a good rhythm of having three older kids and two babies. 

In this episode, we not only share Kierstyn’s birth store but we also answer the questions many of you have asked over and over (such as why we chose to go with an OBGYN versus a midwife, what was different about this birth compared to the other births, if COVID-19 impacted the birth/hospital experience in any way, etc.)

This episode is a little more relaxed and less edited than usual… we wanted it to be more like sitting down and just having conversation with us at our kitchen table — complete with rabbit trails. 🙂

If you enjoy birth stories or are curious about more of the behind-the-scenes of our life, I think you’ll enjoy it.

Welcome to the world, Kierstyn! (By the way, since she was on my lap while we recorded, if you listen in really well, you’ll hear her talking to you!)


In This Episode: 

[03:19] Why we chose to have a hospital birth rather than a midwife birth. 

[06:36] Some of the highlights from our first three births. 

[09:54] When I first discovered I had postpartum depression

[12:15] Our experience with midwives versus having an OBGyn. 

[14:09] How COVID-19 impacted the birth. 

[19:02] We were so surprised when my body started showing signs of labor two weeks before my due date!

[22:20] Most of my labor was very uneventful and fast — up until it was time to push!

[26:38] Why the pushing part of labor was so much harder this time around. 

[30:57] All about those first few moments after the birth!

[33:24] It’s been so fun to see the differences in her personality and how the kids have stepped up.

Links and Resources:

  • MoneySavingMom.com
  • YourBloggingMentor.com
  • My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
  • Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Parenting in the Middle of a Pandemic

A lot of you have asked for my thoughts on how we’re dealing with the Pandemic as parents. In this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I share some of the ways we’re approaching parenting right now and what’s working for us.

As always, every child is different and you know your kids best, so I’m only sharing how we are approaching things at our house… and these principles can be applied to many different seasons of upheaval.

Here are some of the strategies we share in this episode:

Don’t dismiss your kids’ feelings. Feelings are not right or wrong and no one can tell you how you feel or don’t feel. It’s what you choose to do with those feelings that matters most. Give them space to talk about whatever it is they are feeling — anger, sadness, loneliness, grief, frustration, boredom.

Don’t preach sermons. I know it’s easy to want to use this as a way to teach valuable life lessons… but probably way more than sermons, your kids just need a listening ear and empathy. And trust me, your kids ARE going to learn many valuable lessons from this, but a listening ear goes a long way to help them feel seen, heard, and loved.

Don’t stress yourself out trying to get it all right. There is no manual on how to parent well through COVID-19. We’re all just doing the best we can do! When you feel overwhelmed or unsure how to handle a situation, it’s okay to acknowledge this and give yourself some grace. If you are a Christian, this is an amazing opportunity to cry out to the Lord for wisdom and direction for how to respond and love your kids well.

Do remember that you set the tone for your home. If you are extremely stressed and irritable, it’s going to trickle down to your kids and make them feel stressed and on edge. Make sure you’re not spreading yourself too thin so that you are completely zapped and exhausted.

Do relax some of your usual rules/standards. We are allowing a lot more sleeping in, PJ-wearing, screen time, and junk food eating than usual. Yes, I probably just lost some followers over admitting that, but I feel like a lot has been taken away from our kids right now and as long you’re doing your chores and school, I’m pretty chill about a lot of other things in this season.

Do look for the humor in everything. We’ve laughed so hard as a family in the last few weeks — over so many ridiculous things. Laughter has been such good medicine for us and we’ve sought to find the funny in the ordinary. 

Important Note: This will be the last episode we’ll be releasing until the end of May as I’ll be on Maternity Leave until then. We do plan to pop on once during Maternity Leave to do an episode on my birth story. Look for that in the next few weeks!

In This Episode: 

[03:00] Jesse and I are both reading fiction books right now.

[06:35] L’Oreal magic root cover up is saving my life right now. Jesse is loving the Couch to 5k Program. 

[12:20] Don’t discount your kids’ feelings. 

[18:03] Stop trying to get it all right. 

[20:36] Remember that you set the tone for your home. 

[23:21] Consider relaxing some of your usual rules.

[25:16] Look for the humor in everything. 

[28:20] What is working in your home? 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.