MoneySavingMom.com
FREEBIE LIBRARY!
Join my email list and get FREE ACCESS to the MSM Freebie Library, including my top printables & eBooks.

Tag Archive: The Crystal Paine Show

Are you willing to give up what’s making you sick?

Want to know more about the Discipleship Program I’m always talking about? In this episode, I bring on our pastor to share more about why he started the program, some of the key truths in it, and how it has impacted Jesse’s life and my life!

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

Thank you to @sarahmaewrites for this truth bomb quote.

“Do you want to get well?” (John 5:6)

Three years ago, I was sitting at a session in our church’s Discipleship Program and I heard our pastor ask this question and I almost started crying right on the spot.

I knew I was unhealthy. I knew something wasn’t right right. But I didn’t know what was wrong or how to fix it.

But in faith, I said, “Yes!” Whatever it took. Whatever it meant. I wanted to get well.

I didn’t know what that “yes” was going to cost me. How I was going to have to let go of years of unhealthy patterns, unhealthy behaviors, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and codependent relationships.

But I’m here to tell you it was all worth it. It was hard. It was painful. And it changed my life.

(A photo I took from the most recent women’s Discipleship Retreat.)

(A page from my Discipleship Curriculum book.)

This is my third year of being in this intensive Discipleship Program at our church. And I am a completely different person.

I don’t live in bondage to insecurity and fear. I don’t need the approval of others to feel validated. I’ve stopped believing so many lies and have replaced them with truths.

I no longer need to impress people or exhaust myself trying to get people to like me. And I have begun to walk in the immense freedom that comes when you live as loved.

And I stand here gently whispering to anyone who feels like I felt three years ago, “Do you want to get well?”

On today’s podcast episode, I’m honored to have our pastor on to share more about his story, what prompted him to start this Discipleship Program over 7 years ago, and some of the life-changing truths Jesse and I have learned in it.

If you’ve ever wondered more about this program I’ve mentioned OR you are just feeling stuck, lethargic, and emotionally unhealthy, please do not miss this episode!

In This Episode:

[00:25] – Welcome back to the Crystal Paine Show! I give a little backstory about today’s guest, our pastor Eric Hoffman.

[03:37] – The first six months after we moved were a low point for Jesse. He struggled to find his worth outside of his work.

[06:36] – Being part of the Discipleship Program at our church is truly what God used to radically shift his perspective and understanding of God. It also helped him uncover and discover his giftings and the way he is wired.

[08:29] -I share how I was very reluctant to sign up for the Discipleship Program and talk about how exhausting and hard it was for me to go through it the first year. And yet, ultimately, it ended up changing my life in powerful ways. And then, Jesse and I have both had the opportunity to lead small groups through the program the last few years.

[10:36] – Eric takes us back to his less-compassionate days, and explains what brought him to where he is today.

[14:08] – We hear a story about Eric’s conversation with a friend in a coffee shop.

[16:12] – How did Eric manage to keep living out of the truths of what he had learned in day-to-day life?

[19:11] – I talk about how much the program has changed not only my life, but also those of the women I’ve gotten to walk through it with.

[22:37] – What are some first steps that people can take to get out of living in a rut? Eric shares a lot of practical tools and resources here.

[32:54] – Eric leaves us with a great idea of something that he and his wife do with their kids at the dinner table to teach them how to express their emotions in a healthy way.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

How to Be Married to a Strong Woman

Want to know what it’s like to be married to a strong woman? Jesse and I have been married for over 16 years and we’ve learned a lot through trial and error. In this podcast episode, we share our best advice, hard-won lessons, and practical tips for working through your differences in marriage.

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

How to Be Married to a Strong Woman

How to Be Married to a Strong Woman

Jesse surprised me as we were prepping for this week’s podcast episode by telling me he had recently deleted Facebook off of his phone. I had no idea that he had, but I had noticed he has been knocking things off his to do list right and left.

In this episode, we not only talk about boundaries we’ve set for our phones, a book we are reading, and recent travels. Plus, we tackle a somewhat hot-button topic that multiple listeners requested: How our marriage works since I have such a strong personality.

Working Through Conflict Live on the Podcast

As we start discussing the topic, we actually offer a perfect unplanned example of how we work through conflict and misunderstanding — because I began this segment by saying something that rubbed Jesse the wrong way.

He and I walk through this together, talk about how it made him feel, what I was trying to communicate, and how I could have said it better. We then go on to discuss what we’ve learned in the past 16 years of our marriage and how we make it work, even when we disagree.

We end up with (again, unintentionally!) sharing the ABC’s of a healthy marriage: acknowledge your weaknesses, believe the best about your spouse, and communicate your hearts.

In This Episode:

[02:33] – Thank you so much for listening to the podcast and a big special shout-out to those who have left reviews. I read a kind review that a listener recently left for the show. (Psst! I love it when you leave reviews and we may read your review on a future episode!)

[03:30] – We talk about what’s saving our lives these days. I was so inspired by Jesse’s answer. In fact, I changed what I was planning to share as a result!

[09:47] – My book pick this week is one that my sister recommended: The Tattooist of Auschwitz by Heather Morris. Have you read it?

[14:38] – Are you interested in blogging? Curious about starting? I’d love to have you join me in my free blogging class!

[15:43] – I explain what Jesse and I will do in our episodes now that we’re done sharing our story, and introduce today’s topic. We then accidentally demonstrate this dynamic ourselves.

[20:00] – This example illustrates that it’s important for me to recognize that I tend to say things that make Jesse feel run over.

[22:20] – In the context of our marriage, what has helped Jesse not feel bull dozed by my strong personality. We talk about keys we’ve learned for better communicating and why it’s so important to recognize your differences and acknowledge when you feel hurt or shut down.

[32:29] – We also offer some simple steps to a healthier marriage: acknowledge your weaknesses, believe the best about your spouse, and communicate your hearts.

[33:18] – Today’s Q&A question is this: “What are some good questions to ask the person you’re dating?” We share suggestions ranging from finances to personality type to praying together.

[40:19] – If you have any questions, suggestions, feedback, or a topic you want us to talk about in the future, send me an email at crystal@moneysavingmom.com!

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

What it’s like to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

Wonder what it’s like to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? In this week’s podcast episode, Anne Bogel and I discuss what it’s like to be HSP, how it has changed our life to understand this, and why we are so passionate about this topic.

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

a group of friends on a beach

Last time we recorded an episode for The Crystal Paine Show, we had just gotten back from Kansas. And this time, we just got back from Destin, Florida!

It was our first time there (can you believe it?), and we had an amazing trip. We haven’t gone on a long road trip by ourselves since our honeymoon, and even though it was a little bit weird to be in the car for six hours by ourselves, I’m so thankful that we got to go!

anne bogel

Are You a Highly Sensitive Person?

Today’s guest on the show is the amazing Anne Bogel, who you may remember from an earlier episode! (She’s actually the first second-time guest on the show.)

We had such a fantastic conversation that Jesse and I didn’t want you to miss a single minute of it, so we skipped our usual segments of the show to make room for the whole interview.

Anne and I are both Highly Sensitive People (or HSPs). Now before you just think that means someone is overly sensitive or emotional, do yourself a favor and listen to the episode. At least 15-20% of people are HSP — many just don’t know it!

Even If You’re Not HSP, You Need to Listen!

I didn’t know this about myself until I learned it through reading Anne’s book Reading People. When I read her chapter on Highly Sensitive People and realized that she was exactly describing me, it changed my life! All of a sudden I understood why I big crowds drained me, loud noises over-stimulated me, certain fabrics of shirts were incredibly annoying, and why I can’t function well if my house is a mess.

We’ll start off by talking about how Anne came across this concept, and how it helped her regain a sense of control and improving her own life experience. We’ll also dig into the impact that being an HSP can have (some of the struggles as well as the perks!) and how to tell if you’re an HSP.

Even if you’re not a Highly Sensitive Person, don’t miss this amazing conversation! You’ll likely identify someone close to you who is and it will help you have a better understanding of how to love them and interact with them (and maybe not think they are just high maintenance or needy!)

In This Podcast Episode:

[00:25] – Jesse and I discuss how weird (and fun) it was to go on our first road trip by ourselves (without kids) in years.

[04:10] – This episode will be a little bit different because I ended up having such a long conversation with Anne Bogel that we decided to make the interview the focus of the episode. 

[04:56] – I (re)introduce Anne and ask her to share about her new podcast that just launched! Check it out at One Great Book.

[09:14] – When did Anne first learn about the concept of Highly Sensitive People (HSP)? She talks about when the light bulb went off for her and how discovering this idea changed things for her and helped her regain a sense of control.

[15:26] – Anne and I discuss our greatest struggles and greatest strengths as a Highly Sensitive Person.

[21:19] – I can’t watch certain movies or listen to certain kinds of news, because it will be too heavy and too much for me. Anne shares how she can’t write when there is music playing with words.

[22:17] – We talk about the best way to determine whether you’re HSP, or whether one of your kids or friends might be? (“When you know, you know,” Anne explains. “HSPs often don’t even need the test.”)

30:38] – What is Anne reading right now?

[32:16] – Anne talks about what’s saving her life right now: walking to work (even though she works at home!).

[34:39] – Did you enjoy that conversation as much as I did? Do you have any questions, comments, or feedback? Get in touch by email at crystal@moneysavingmom.com!

Links and Resources From Today’s Podcast:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

How to Save Time in the Kitchen

Want to save time in the kitchen? In this podcast episode, Lisa Burns shares her tried and true tips for feeding your family yummy meals without spending a lot of time in the kitchen.

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.


(Listen to the episode for the story behind this photo!)

Today’s episode of The Crystal Paine show not only includes details on our whirlwind trip to Kansas, my thoughts on buying markdowns, a book I loved recently, a new book Jesse is reading, but it also includes a very practical interview with Lisa Burns from This Pilgrim Life.

Lisa Burns Cookbook

I first connected with today’s guest, Lisa Burns, when she signed up for my four-week blog coaching class. It’s been so fun to watch her blog and social media take off since that class — and she’s now known as an Instant Pot expert and she has a cookbook coming out in May!

As she admits in our conversation, she didn’t know how to cook until after she got married (and didn’t even eat vegetables as a child). As a busy mom of five herself, she’s full of wisdom and tips for getting delicious meals on the table even when your schedule is packed.

We talk about menu-planning, why an Instant Pot might change your life, her favorite quick and easy recipes, some fascinating behind-the-scenes details of her cookbook photo shoot (including how she make 76 recipes in a few days in her Instant Pots!!) Plus, of course, two books she’s reading and what’s saving her life.

In This Podcast Episode:

[03:20] – Jesse and I are in the middle of a kind of packed travel season. We just got back from a quick trip to visit family in Kansas for Easter. While we were in Kansas, we took the kids to Spangles.

[06:01] – This episode might have a LOT of food talk… maybe it was because Jesse and I were both hungry when we recorded it! We talk about how Kroger markdowns save us so much money and provide an endless stream of variety in our diet.

[08:58] – Jesse finished his book and started a new one!! Tune in to listen to what he started reading + a book I finished last week.

[13:14] – Lisa talks about her family and her journey through learning to cook from scratch and how she didn’t even know how to cook when she got married.

[17:19] – I ask Lisa to share some of her best strategies for menu-planning and cooking from scratch when her schedule is packed.

[21:51] – Lisa chats about why she’s so passionate about the Instant Pot, even though she calls herself a “kitchen minimalist.” She also tells us about some of her favorite recipes from her cookbook and blog — yum! (By the way, if you think the Instant Pot is just for cooking soup or rice or main dishes, guess again. Lisa makes cake, bread dough, yogurt and more in her Instant Pot!)

[26:22] – How many Instant Pots does Lisa have, and how many did she use when making 76 recipes in just a few days for the photo shoot for her cookbook?

[27:37] – Lisa shares about two books she’s reading and finding insightful + she shares what’s saving her life right now.

Podcast Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

Why We Moved to Nashville

In this week’s podcast episode, we answer a question we’ve been asked over and over again: “Why did you move to Nashville?” Jesse and I share our honest thoughts on the challenges that led up to us considering moving to Nashville and why we ended up making the move.

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

Why We Moved to Nashville

Last week, Jesse and I were supposed to record an episode telling more of our story, but he had to go out of town unexpectedly and was gone for almost the whole week. In this episode, we share more about that, why we don’t function very well when he’s gone, but why I’m happy he was able to make the trip.

We also talk about books we’re reading (my book was one I almost didn’t share about!), my new non-coffee healthy “mocha” I’ve been drinking in the mornings, and a special offer on my course, 15 Days to a Healthier You.

A question we have gotten asked over and over again in recent years — and especially since we started sharing our story on the podcast! — is, “Why did you move to Nashville?”

In this episode, we share what challenges led up to us considering moving to Nashville and why we ended up making the move.

And Whew! We’re Finally Done Sharing Our Story!

When I first started this podcast, I thought Jesse and I would just do one episode sharing part of our story. I never envisioned we’d spend 8 whole episodes on our story!! But it has been so good for us to take the time to recount our 16 years of marriage and share the highs and lows of our journey.

Thank you for listening in, sending such kind emails, and encouraging us to take the time to share our story. Your willingness to show up, show interest, and listen in has been a gift to us!

And now we can finally start doing topical episodes together! We’re excited to dive into some of the topics you all have written in and suggested!

In This Episode:

[02:58] – I’m so happy Jesse is back home! He shares why he went out of town, why he was grateful he got to go, and I share how I have so much respect for all the single parents and parents who are often flying solo!

[04:37] – Jesse got some great reading in while he was traveling and he has a book update for us!

[06:18] – I chat about a book I finished last week — which I almost didn’t talk about because of the crass language. But I found it so fascinating that I had to share.

[08:37] – My current drink (and what’s saving my life!) is a mix of Dandy Blendand Morning Motivator.

[12:21] – If you’re ready to live a healthier life, check out my 15 Days to a Healthier You course!

[13:01] – Jesse and I recap where we left off in our story the last time that we talked about it on the show.

[15:14] – We started asking for help and bringing on some business and personal help, which made such a difference.

[17:15] – I talk about how much MoneySavingMom.com exploded during this period, as well as a specific opportunity that gave us enough money to start looking at houses.

[20:13] – It was so thrilling to finally be able to buy a house with cash… and we thought it was going to be our “forever home.”

[21:52] – But then, we began to take a hard look at our lifestyle and what we had worked so hard for. Was this what we really wanted?

[25:22] – Jesse felt antsy, burnt out, and exhausted and we knew it was time for a change. So we began praying about what that would look like. And Tennessee just kept coming to our minds.

[30:26] – It felt crazy, but we decided to take an 18-month leap of faith and try relocating to Tennessee and renting a house. To play it “safe”, we didn’t sell our house in Kansas so that we could easily move back if we decided that Tennessee wasn’t a good fit. Well, that was five years ago. And we are so grateful to be here… even on the days when it’s been a challenge and we’ve missed Kansas and our extended family.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

What is the Enneagram?

What is the Enneagram? In this week’s podcast, we explore what the Enneagram is and why it can make such a difference in your life and understanding of others.

Leigh Kramer and Crystal Paine

What is the Enneagram?

We’ve been getting a lot of questions lately about the Enneagram recently, so I thought it was high time we devote part of an interview to explaining what it is and why it can make such a difference to understand.

Truly, understanding the Enneagram has changed so much of my perspective on life and has improved my relationships, my compassion toward others, and has helped me to embrace the way that I am wired and see it as a gift, instead of something to be embarrassed about.

a photo of the enneagram

My friend and virtual assistant, Leigh Kramer, is joining me to share more because she’s passionate about the Enneagram and she has helped me to process through what my number is and why it matters.

Leigh will explain each of the nine Enneagram types, as well as how to figure out what yours is (and why taking online tests isn’t the best way) and how this knowledge can help you become a healthier person.

In This Podcast Episode:

[00:25] – I just got back home from helping out at a 7th and 8th grade camp in Kentucky… where I shared a cabin with 20 other girls/women and we had a cereal party, karaoke, and even glow-in-the-dark dodgeball.

[03:37] – My kids have testing this week so they wanted me to make homemade energy bites. We love these so much!

[05:06] – I have a confession to make: I didn’t read a single book last week. Can you believe it? But I share an app/site that’s been helping me stay more motivated to read (which might sound funny since I didn’t finish any books last week! But listen in for more details!)

[09:08] – Ready for better mornings? Try my free 5 Days to a Better Morning Challenge!

[09:56] – I’m excited to have Leigh Kramer joining me today for a conversation about the Enneagram!

[12:47] – How did Leigh first discover what the Enneagram is and why is she so passionate about it?

[14:57] – For listeners who are new to the Enneagram, Leigh explains more of the history of the Enneagram and what each of the nine types are.

[18:35] – One of the things I love most about understanding what the Enneagram is that it gives you a path to being more emotionally healthy as a person.

[19:59] – What’s the best way to determine what enneagram type you are? Leigh talks about why online tests often give inaccurate results and what she recommends instead of taking a test.

[23:16] – Leigh is one of the most voracious readers I know. She shares why she reads so much plus two books she’s finished and loved recently. She also shares something that’s saving her life right now: the perfect mugs!

[28:04] – Ready for today’s Q&A segment? It’s all about setting goals, specifically whether Jesse also does monthly goals (like I do).

[33:31] – If you need practical help with setting goals, check out our Make Over Your Year course.

[34:24] – Do you have a question of your own? Or feedback or suggestions? Email Crystal at crystal@moneysavingmom.com!

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!