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Parenting in the Middle of a Pandemic

A lot of you have asked for my thoughts on how we’re dealing with the Pandemic as parents. In this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I share some of the ways we’re approaching parenting right now and what’s working for us.

As always, every child is different and you know your kids best, so I’m only sharing how we are approaching things at our house… and these principles can be applied to many different seasons of upheaval.

Here are some of the strategies we share in this episode:

Don’t dismiss your kids’ feelings. Feelings are not right or wrong and no one can tell you how you feel or don’t feel. It’s what you choose to do with those feelings that matters most. Give them space to talk about whatever it is they are feeling — anger, sadness, loneliness, grief, frustration, boredom.

Don’t preach sermons. I know it’s easy to want to use this as a way to teach valuable life lessons… but probably way more than sermons, your kids just need a listening ear and empathy. And trust me, your kids ARE going to learn many valuable lessons from this, but a listening ear goes a long way to help them feel seen, heard, and loved.

Don’t stress yourself out trying to get it all right. There is no manual on how to parent well through COVID-19. We’re all just doing the best we can do! When you feel overwhelmed or unsure how to handle a situation, it’s okay to acknowledge this and give yourself some grace. If you are a Christian, this is an amazing opportunity to cry out to the Lord for wisdom and direction for how to respond and love your kids well.

Do remember that you set the tone for your home. If you are extremely stressed and irritable, it’s going to trickle down to your kids and make them feel stressed and on edge. Make sure you’re not spreading yourself too thin so that you are completely zapped and exhausted.

Do relax some of your usual rules/standards. We are allowing a lot more sleeping in, PJ-wearing, screen time, and junk food eating than usual. Yes, I probably just lost some followers over admitting that, but I feel like a lot has been taken away from our kids right now and as long you’re doing your chores and school, I’m pretty chill about a lot of other things in this season.

Do look for the humor in everything. We’ve laughed so hard as a family in the last few weeks — over so many ridiculous things. Laughter has been such good medicine for us and we’ve sought to find the funny in the ordinary. 

Important Note: This will be the last episode we’ll be releasing until the end of May as I’ll be on Maternity Leave until then. We do plan to pop on once during Maternity Leave to do an episode on my birth story. Look for that in the next few weeks!

In This Episode: 

[03:00] Jesse and I are both reading fiction books right now.

[06:35] L’Oreal magic root cover up is saving my life right now. Jesse is loving the Couch to 5k Program. 

[12:20] Don’t discount your kids’ feelings. 

[18:03] Stop trying to get it all right. 

[20:36] Remember that you set the tone for your home. 

[23:21] Consider relaxing some of your usual rules.

[25:16] Look for the humor in everything. 

[28:20] What is working in your home? 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Our Craziest Travel Stories

I usually have almost endless ideas for content. However, with the world in so much upheaval, I’ve struggled with how to be a podcaster. Should I only talk about the pandemic because it’s impacting everyone’s lives or should I go ahead with producing normal content?

As I was grappling through this, I decided to ask for feedback and thoughts on Instagram on what you would like for us to share on the podcast during this weird season of unknowns. I heard from SO many of you and the resounding response was that you would love lighthearted content that wasn’t COVID-heavy.

While we will continue to acknowledge what’s going on in our world and may have more episodes related to it in the future, we thought it’d be fun to do something different this week and take you on a journey with us (from your home!) on some of our crazy travel adventures!

We share four different crazy travel stories:

  • The first is from my first big international trip and how something I did on my return flight resulted in a big rift between Jesse and I (and on the podcast, as we were sharing the story, Jesse realized that for 5 years, he thought that I had done something I hadn’t done! I guess it’s good we finally cleared that up!)
  • Next up, Jesse shares about something hilarious that went down while he was on a guys’ fishing trip to Louisiana.
  • The third story is one I was a little scared to share publicly and have only told a few people. It’s definitely one of those, “I can’t believe I really did that” moments!!
  • And finally, the last story is the most bizarre… in fact, it’s so crazy that you might think that we made it up. But I promise we didn’t!

In This Episode: 

[01:02] Why we decided to do an episode on crazy travel stories.

[04:04] Up first is my very first international trip to South Africa. 

[06:20] We start at the end of the trip… and keep in mind that Jesse is very much a rule follower and I was brand-new to traveling internationally.

[13:09] I’m glad we cleared up a 5-years-long misunderstanding on the podcast today!!

[15:46] All about that time Jesse thought his bunk mate on his fishing trip had stopped breathing.

[20:14] That time I did a very embarrassing thing on complete accident in the Focus on the Family lobby.

[26:54] We saved our very best travel story for last — involving flight issues, a passenger passing out on me, and a big fight on the flight. (I promise we’re not making any of this up!)

Links and Resources:

  • MoneySavingMom.com
  • YourBloggingMentor.com
  • My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
  • Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Creative Ideas for Family Fun at Home (or in the car!)

(The kids have been coming up with lots of unique and fun projects to try at home. Kaitlynn made mini s’mores the other day!)

By popular request, we had fun this week sitting down and talking about some of our favorite creative family fun things to do at home. If you are looking for some simple ideas of things you can do at home (or in the car) while still social distancing, you don’t want to miss today’s podcast episode!

We also give you an update on what’s happening in our lives, how we’re adjusting to life with one newborn, and talk about how we’re seeking to focus on our blessings and blessing others during this time where things are so topsy turvy.

In This Episode: 

[02:20] Life has been full at our house between adjusting to life with a newborn and preparing for another newborn!

[07:33] I’ve still been fitting in some time to read and have recently loved The Lazy Genius Way

[11:03] Focusing on our blessings and on being a blessing can change your perspective!

[12:32] Working together as a family to have shifts throughout the day and night has been saving our lives.

[17:21] We put our thinking caps on and came up with a number of different creative family fun ideas you can do while social distancing. Let’s talk about scavenger hunts and around town scavenger hunts — from your vehicle!

[21:27] I share a really fun idea that one family is doing to bring together teens and young kids in their neighborhood right now.

[22:25] We love old movies and musicals and this is the perfect time to watch some of those you been wanting to watch for a long time.

[23:04] Kathrynne came up with the idea of putting together a letter-writing sort of “campaign” with her friends.

[26:05] What about a special “Dress for Dinner” night or creating a “Bowl Full of Fun”?

[28:03] This is an historic time — keep a record, write down memories, take pictures. 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Answering all of your burning questions

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Since we all have been home pretty much 24/7 recently self-isolating, we thought it would be fun to do a laid-back family episode for the podcast week. I asked on Instagram what questions you’d love for us to discuss as a family, and you all submitted such great ideas.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Our individual pet peeves (and Jesse schools us on the origin of “pet peeve”)
  • How the kids feel about fostering
  • One tradition the kids loved from when they were younger (their answer totally surprised me!)
  • A few favorite family activities while social distancing + favorite board games & a snack we all love
  • Whether the kids think they’d like to be homeschooled again
  • Some of the kids’ favorite books
  • Sibling rivalry —  what our kids argue over the most & how they resolve conflict
  • Our thoughts and feelings as we look forward to having two newborns soon
  • Where we’d like to travel to once it’s safe to travel again — my answer got a little deep and serious (I hadn’t prepped what I was going to say, so it kind of surprised me!)

Pull up a chair and enjoy a sitting in and listening on a very typical dinnertime conversation at our house (well, except I don’t usually come with a long list of questions!)


In This Episode: 

[01:24] We share our individual pet peeves. 

[04:43] How do the kids feel about fostering? 

[06:00] What traditions do the kids remember from when they were little? 

[10:45] Would the kids ever want to be homeschooled again?

[13:47] The kids share the books that they love.

[15:30] Sibling rivalry and how they work through disagreements.

[19:06] Our thoughts and feelings on having two newborns at our house soon.

[25:38] Where do we want to go once it’s safe to travel again? 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

BIG Updates From Our House (we tell you all about it on the podcast)

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Well, like I’ve alluded to other places online, the past two weeks have been packed full of so many different, unexpected things. Some good, some hard, some just plain different than what we expected.

It feels almost as if we’ve lived through an entire month in just a week’s time. In this week’s podcast episode, we sit down and talk about some of the BIG updates/changes/unexpected things that happened at our house recently, including:

  • getting a long-term placement from foster care for a preemie who was still in the NICU (he got out of the hospital today!!!!)
  • the kids being out of school and everything being cancelled — and how we are letting them plan their routine for the day and how that is working for us
  • Kathrynne’s trip to Suriname where she ended up getting stuck there because the country closed their borders due to COVID-19 (she only ended up having to stay two extra days — and she shares more about that experience on the podcast)

If you have some extra time and want a more newsy behind-the-scenes peek into what’s going on at our house right now, don’t miss this episode.

In This Episode: 

[01:25] There have been some major life changes happening lately and we’re going to discuss a few of them in-depth on the podcast today.

[03:21] The kids are planning their own routines during this time and it is saving both my life and Jesse’s life. Hear why we are having our kids be in charge of this and how we went about having them set this up.

[09:11] I’m reading Don’t Overthink It by Anne Bogel and I share some of my favorite quotes.

[12:45] Jesse is reading Fearless by Eric Blehm.

[18:36] Our sweet foster baby should be released from the hospital soon and we are so excited.

[21:24] Kathrynne joins us to chat about her adventures in Suriname. She shares why she went on this trip, what they did on the trip, and her biggest highlight of the trip.

[27:41] Hear all about how the trip ended very differently than any of us could have imagined and Kathrynne felt when they were told that the trip could be extended for 30 days or more. 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

There is No Better Mom for the Job (parenting with confidence)

I know that the whole world is kind of in upheaval right now and there’s a lot of unknown and uncertainty. I debated whether to go ahead with publishing this podcast that was planned for the week as it didn’t really have much of anything to do with what’s going on in the world.

However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that probably some of you would like a break from the incessant stream of news. Also, I know that many families are going to be hunkering down over the next few weeks (or longer) and spending a lot of time at home as a family.

I realized that, with this in mind, maybe this was the perfect episode for this week. We moms need to be reminded that God has given us the kids He has and He knows that there is no better mom for the job of raising our kids than us, especially during hard days.

In this episode of the podcast, I’m joined by Becky Keife, author of No Better Mom for the Job, to discuss what it means to feel confident in your motherhood. 

Becky had three boys in three and a half years… and I think that in itself is enough for us to sit up and listen to what she has to say! 🙂 While no parenting journey is easy, there are certainly those with more trials to go through. Becky shares what it was like having three boys at such young ages and how she managed during those times. 

It wasn’t until she really leaned into her faith, however, that she found the confidence to take ownership of her motherhood. So many times she felt like she was failing her children and the the Lord had given those babies to her at the wrong time. She didn’t feel like the right mother for the job. 

Through seeking the Lord and finding her confidence in His goodness and love, her attitude changed. In this episode, she shares her journey to more confident parenting, owning her gifts (and being okay with areas that weren’t her gifts!), how she has learned to embrace her active and “spirited” boys and the personalities God has given them, and how parenting has changed as her kids have gotten older.

I hope our conversation encourages you — wherever you are in your parenting journey — that there is no better mom for the job!

In This Episode: 

[01:19] Becky shares about being a mom to 3 spirited boys born in 3 1/2 years!

[04:56] I read a quote from the book that discusses God’s love and how that contributes to confidence in parenting.

[07:09] Was it a long process to get to the place of finding your confidence in God as a parent?

[08:22] We talk candidly about how every mom is so different and Becky shares how she made peace with not being a mom who could take her kids to the park.

[12:51] How do you approach delighting in high-energy children without crushing their spirit? 

[15:57] When you’re in the thick of things, you may not feel like you’re the right mom. 

[17:24] What would Becky say to the moms who feel like they aren’t qualified and don’t have any special gifts or talents?

[20:42] There is a power in community. Learn how to build connections with other moms.

[23:37] Being fine isn’t the point. Hear why!

[24:49] How can you parent with confidence as your kids get older?

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.