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Creative Family Moments shows you how to make Origami Turkeys. You could use these for table decorations, name cards, or just for a fun craft to do with your children this week.
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I tend to procrastinate on the things I least enjoy. For me, that’s usually laundry. (No shock there, eh?!)
It’s silly, I know, but I’ll put off folding the pile of clean laundry until I am down to my very last outfit (it’s probably a good thing I only have a few outfits, otherwise I can’t imagine how behind I’d get on laundry!). The laundry pile will hang over my head and burden me down, but I often don’t do anything about it until it becomes a necessity.
Prioritize the Hardest Things First
Mark Twain wisely said, “If you eat a frog first thing in the morning that will probably be the worst thing you do all day.”
Brian Tracy wrote an entire book based upon this quote called, Eat That Frog: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time. One of his main premises is that if you start the day out by doing the things you like least first, you’ll get them out of the way so you can enjoy your day more and be more productive and fulfilled.
Eat That Frog is an excellent read and it challenged me to go into my day with the goal of doing the hardest things first. When I get the most dreaded things out of the way right off the bat, it gives me so much momentum for the rest of the day!
I’ve been trying to apply this idea to my laundry pile. Instead of letting it sit and grow to an overwhelming size, I’m trying start a load of laundry first thing in the morning, switch it to the dryer before breakfast, and then fold and put it away mid-morning. So far, I’ve not been successful at doing it this way every day, but on the days that I have done this, I’ve been amazed at how well it works.
And honestly, when I just do one load a day, I’m able to stay on top of the laundry, it never gets out of hand, and it really takes no more than 15 minutes a day to keep up with. Why has it taken me almost nine years of running my own home to figure this simple principle out?
Save the Best for Last
Once you’ve accomplished your most dreaded tasks for the day, reward yourself with some of the tasks you enjoy doing. This will give you something to look forward to when you’re in the midst of doing your hard tasks and will probably give you motivation to accomplish them more quickly.
Note: I’m taking the weekend off from posting this daily series, but will be back with the next installment on Monday. Enjoy a little breather–but keep on with your discipline goals and projects!
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He Heard Hannah — I received a pre-release copy of this book and enjoyed it. As with pre-release editions, it’s not the final copy, so the layout/typographical errors can get in the way a little bit, but the story line was still quite captivating. The recounting of God’s redemption in the midst of anguish and unimaginable grief was powerfully moving. You cannot help but be touched by this book.
Becoming a Woman of Influence — I’m not quite finished with this book, but so far I’ve been very motivated and inspired in intentionally looking for opportunities to mentor and invest in the lives of women who are younger than me. Thank you so much to a few readers who recommended I read this book!
Read-Aloud:
The Blue Hill Meadows — This book is quite idealistic, but we still really enjoyed following the stories of the Meadows family throughout the four seasons.
I don’t like to let people down. I don’t like to admit I can’t add another thing to my plate. In short, I don’t like saying no.
But in the last few years, I’ve finally come to realize an important truth: superwoman is a myth. If I want to live a productive, efficient, happy, peaceful, and disciplined life, I must learn to say no. And I must say it often.
If you want to stick with your goals, you’re going to have to get good at saying no. It’s hard to do, especially if you’re an over-achiever like me. But you’ll only end up frustrated, exhausted, and depleted if you try to do it all.
The reality is: I can’t do it all. When I say yes to one thing, I must say no to something else. When I choose to make getting up early a priority, I have to say no to habitually staying up late. I also have to say no to most activities and events that would keep me up late.
Count the Costs
Slowly but surely, I’m learning to think before committing to anything: what will be the consequences of saying yes? Will saying yes to this late-night thing throw me off-course and mean that I can’t get up before 5 a.m.? Will saying yes to this big commitment mean that my home and family suffers?
Count the cost of each commitment before you make the final decision. Don’t just blindly say yes when someone tries to convince you that you must do X, Y, or Z. Don’t give in to peer pressure or make decisions based upon what people might think of you if you say no.
Choose the Best Stuff First
You can’t say yes to everything. It’s up to you to pick and choose wisely and say yes to only what is best. If you have leftover time and energy, you can always say yes to some good things, too. But start with the best stuff first.
Practical Application
1) Evaluate all the activities and commitments on your plate right now. Choose one that really doesn’t matter or isn’t helping you move closer to your longterm goals and get rid of it. If it’s something that involves other people, make sure you don’t just walk out on them without tying up all the lose ends first. Tell us in the comments what you decided to cut out from your life. I’m anxious to hear! 🙂
2) Make a habit of saying no more often than you say yes. The peace and order you’ll begin to experience in your life will be well worth the initial difficulty of actually saying no.
How are you doing on your current habit? I went to bed early last night and found it was so much easier to get up at 5 a.m. this morning. I need to do that more often! 🙂 I’m very ready for the weekend and getting to sleep in until 7 a.m., but I’m happy to have made it through another Monday through Thursday of getting up by 5 a.m. every day. (Okay, so I know that I initially said I was going to get up before 5 a.m., but I’ve decided to give myself grace adn just stick with by 5 a.m. for now!)
The holidays are right around the corner and that means house guests for many of us. We don’t have a large house, but we’ve always wanted to make our home a welcoming place for family and friends so we make it work. Over the last year, we’ve had twenty people come through our house, and we’ve come up with a few fun tips to make the guests feel extra welcome and the kids get involved in the preparation:
Make a Welcome Letter. Just like hotels and B&Bs, make a letter to your guests covering some basics that might make them feel more at home like how to get on the internet, what they should do with towels, etc. As a family, we developed a B&B template that you are free to use! We call our make-believe B&B the Humranch House. We don’t own a ranch, but we have a dog and we’re pretty wild.
Use Those Samples! Make a nice basket full of goodies with all your free samples that you leave in the room your guests will be residing. Make a little “For Those Who Forgot…” note if you’re worried that they’ll take all your goodies! Aside from all our wonderful body wash, lotions, shampoos, hair product, and pain reliever samples, we include a couple pairs of earplugs, a sewing kit (got that from a hotel actually!), and a small baggie of Q-tips.
Pretend You’re Traveling. Take a moment to put yourself in your guest’s shoes. What would you want to have if you were a guest? In my case, as a light sleeper, I’d want something to mask odd noise, so we always place an extra fan or a sound machine in the room. We also make a night light and extra blankets and pillows available.
Chocolate. Yes, chocolate. We have yet to have a guest enter their room without a gasp of surprise or laughter. You see, we always place some chocolate on their pillows! Usually it’s something simple that we’ve purchased with coupons like some Rolos, an Andes Mint, or Hershey’s Miniatures. But once, for a couple’s anniversary, we put a full chocolate bar on each pillow. They loved it!
Heather Humrichouse loves to live life purposefully by celebrating the ordinary every day. Her family and their often bizarre celebrations can be found at Creative Family Moments.
If you want to succeed at discipline, you have got to be focused. You’ll never hit the bull’s eye if you’re aiming at multiple targets.
Here are three keys for maintaining focus:
1) Remove Distractions
If you are struggling to follow through with your goal(s), step back and examine if there are things that are serving as major distractions:
::Are you on Facebook or reading blogs instead of cleaning up your kitchen at night like you’d committed to? Set up Leechblock on your computer for the hour after dinner so you can’t get on the computer.
::Are you giving in to the temptation to eat two brownies every night, even though you’re trying to lose five pounds? Get rid of the brownies and don’t make anymore! Seriously, it’s better to throw them in the trash if they are keeping you from sticking with your goals.
2) Break Your Goal(s) Into Bite-Sized Pieces
If you look at your goal(s) as a whole, you can quickly get overwhelmed. But when you break it down into small pieces, it becomes much more manageable. In addition, it’s much easier to stay focused if you are only looking at the next few steps ahead of you than the huge mountain you’re aiming to climb.
Trying to lose 50 pounds can be daunting unless you break it down and focus on losing a half pound at a time. Successful marathoners can’t get hung up worrying about how they are going to finish, they just have to pace themselves for this mile or half-mile that they are currently running.
If you have a home piled with clutter, you won’t be able to overhaul it in a day. If, however, you set the timer for 15 minutes every day and work faithfully on it for three months, you’ll see some real progress.
3) Set Yourself Up for Success
It’s easy to make excuses for a lack of discipline, but excuses don’t get you anywhere. Instead, invest the time and effort you’d usually take to make excuses to consider what you can do to set yourself up for success in achieving your goals.
For instance, if you’re trying to get up early but you find that you always fall back to sleep or hit the snooze button, don’t just give up and make the excuse that “I’m not a morning person”. Maybe you’re not, but until you’ve put forth significant effort to try getting up early on a regular basis, you can’t make that statement.
Start winding down for bed at least an hour before you plan to go to bed. Make a point to go to bed an hour or two earlier than you usually do. Buy an alarm without a snooze, set multiple alarms, or have a friend call you at 6 a.m. every morning. Make yourself get right out of bed and jump in the shower to wake yourself up. Or, put your shoes on and go out for a morning run. Even if you’re dog tired, you’ll probably feel wide awake by the time you get home!
Practical Application
1) Consider what is distracting you from staying focused on your goal(s). How can you remove these distractions?
2) If you didn’t do so earlier in this series, take the time to break your goal(s) down into small bite-sized pieces. If applicable, set a specific timeframe for accomplishing each of these small pieces.
3) What things are hindering your success in following through with your goal(s)? What steps can you take to set you up for better success?
How are you doing on your current habit? I got up at 5 a.m. again this morning. I practically had to drag myself out of bed, but I was glad that I did later. And after a brisk run, a shower, and a cup of coffee, I felt quite energetic. However, I’m going to bed an hour earlier tonight, because I’m beginning to feel low on sleep!
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Guest Post by Tiffany
I have always been frugal, used coupons, and shopped with cash only, but lately I have been inspired to save more. Our family is in the midst of saving for an adoption, and we have a dream of paying off our home in three years, so every little penny counts as one step closer to our BHAG.
As with everyone else, our food budget is where we are able to save the most money; therefore, I plan menus without fail, cook from scratch, and shop sales fliers. We eat leftovers regularly for dinner and lunch; however, we still end up with a few odds and ends being thrown away after meals.
On my quest to save more money, I read about a brilliant idea in The Tightwad Gazette and put it into practice a few months ago. Stick a bowl into your freezer and any sort of leftover from a meal gets dumped into the bowl to make into a soup at a later date. (Note: this is not food leftover from someone’s plate, which can spread germs and bacteria). It may include a few carrots left in the pot or stock leftover from soup, but it all gets dumped into the “soup bowl”.
I kept my practice of doing this a secret from my dear hubby, afraid of how the soup would eventually turn out. After a few months of gathering “ingredients” and after our first cold front blew in I gave the soup a try.
I dug through my freezer and pulled out all the leftovers I had collected:
::Tomato soup broth– leftover from a beef stew
::4 cups pinto beans — I cook whole beans and then freeze them for later use.
::4 cups black beans
::2 yogurt containers full of chicken, noodles & veggies
::Bag of carrots
The only two things I added from my pantry were corn and a packet of taco seasoning.
After cooking the soup I ladled it into bowls, added a little cheese, and then waited for my husband to arrive home. When he walked in the door he said, “Dinner smells great! What are we having?”
“Dave Ramsey Soup,” I replied, “Also know as ‘Get out of debt quickly soup’!”
He had a look of horror on his face when I told him what it was, but when we our first bites it was delicious! What I loved most is it cost me about $0.50 total and it lasted our family three nights plus lunch leftovers. I calculated it to cost about $.05 per serving with the cheese. Now that is what you call frugal!
Early this morning, my friend Angie texted me with a question about freezer cooking. As we were texting back and forth she asked, “Did you run this morning?”
You see, Angie and I have both been individually trying to get up early and run in the mornings. We both know we feel better and accomplish more when we do it, but it’s not always easy–especially on cold mornings.
This morning when she texted me, I hadn’t run yet as I was hard at work wrapping up the details to post about my free freezer cooking ebook. Her text was just the motivation I needed to pull myself up out of the comfortable chair I was seated in and go run a mile. Yes, it was just a mile, but it was something and it made me feel a lot more energetic the rest of the morning.
You Need Cheerleaders
You can’t do this discipline thing alone. Well, you can, but I guarantee you it will be a lot harder to keep at it if you don’t have anyone encouraging you along the way.
Whenever I run by myself, I’ve found that I tend to go easier on myself and stop earlier than I planned. If my side starts hurting or I have a long to-do list, I use that as an excuse for a short run. However, when I run with someone else, I’m always motivated to push a little harder, go a little faster, and not give up when I feel winded and tired.
It’s the same with life: when you feel like you’re going it alone, it’s harder to keep on when the going gets rough. But when you have others around you who are encouraging you, checking up on you, or texting you to make sure you’re following through with your morning run (thanks, Angie!), you’re much more apt to actually stick with your goals.
While neither of us have been quite as enthusiastic in the early mornings when the alarm clock goes off, it’s been much easier to stick with our commitment when we’re both doing it. And, of course, posting about this challenge publicly on my blog has been a huge motivation, as well.
How to Find An Accountability Partner
You might be thinking, “I wish I had an accountability partner, but I don’t even know where to find one.” Well, it might not be as hard as you think. Start with your local friends and family and see if anyone would like to join you in keeping each other accountable to one specific goal on a regular basis.
If you can’t find anyone locally, ask friends on Facebook, Twitter, your blog, or other online groups you’re a part of. Or, search and see if there’s already an online support group of some sort (such as the Good Morning Girls or Hello Mornings Challenge, if you’re working on getting up early).
Practical Application
1) Find an accountability partner either locally or online.
2) Create a specific plan for how you each will hold each other accountable for your goal(s). Will you email, call, text, talk in person? How often will you check up on each other?
3) If you have an accountability partner, tell us about it in the comments. I’d love to hear what’s worked well for you!
How are you doing on your current habit? I got up right at 5 a.m. this morning–yay! I had had a busy day yesterday and had stayed up late reading a book (I know, I know, I shouldn’t have!), so it was really hard not to hit snooze and go back to bed this morning. But the accountability of my husband and knowing I was going to have to report back to you all tonight motivated me. And I ended up quickly forgetting about my tiredness with all the activity of the day!
To intentionally cultivate discipline in your life, you must have goals. Not just dreams, not just lofty ambitions, but specific, realistic, achievable goals. If you don’t know where you’re aiming, you’ll lack direction and purpose.
Put Your Goals on Paper
I love how Dave Ramsey encourages people to put their financial goals “on paper, on purpose”. When you write down your goals, instead of just keeping them floating around in your brain, it puts more weight to them. Plus, if you write your goals down, you’re able to track your progress and be encouraged at the momentum you’re gaining in the right direction.
There are some very helpful goal-setting worksheets available from Project Management Skills and from Cigna Behavioral Health. However, please don’t be overwhelmed by these more in-depth worksheets. A simple sticky-note taped to your mirror or refrigerator will work just as well. The objective is not to have a fancy paper filled out, but to actually follow through with your goals.
Take Small Bites
Once you’ve written down the goal or two you are focusing on implementing in your life, develop an incremental plan of action for accomplishing that goal. Some goals lend themselves more to babysteps than others. For instance, if you want to lose five pounds in six weeks, you can create a six-week plan to achieve this goal that could look something like this:
Week 1: Track your calorie intake through SparkPeople. Exercise for 2 hours total.
Week 2: Find an accountability partner. Continue to track calorie intake, adjust if needed. Exercise for 2.5 hours total.
Week 3: Check-in with accountability partner. Continue to track calorie intake, adjust if needed. Exercise for 3 hours total. Drink more water.
Week 4: Check-in with accountability partner. Continue to track calorie intake, adjust if needed. Exercise for 3 hours total. Drink at least 8-10 glasses of water daily. Cut out fast food, sugar, or soda pop.
Week 5: Maintain all habits from previous weeks, re-evaluate anything that isn’t working.
Week 6: Reward yourself for losing five pounds and developing some good habits that will hopefully stick around for a long time.
Now, I’m not saying that the above plan is guaranteed to make you lose five pounds in six weeks, but it gives you an idea of how to take a bigger goal and break it down into smaller pieces. Instead of being overwhelmed by looking at the big picture, think what small steps you can slowly take to get where you want to go. Map them out and then follow them!
Review & Tweak As Needed
Post your goal(s) in a conspicuous place and review them often. I’d suggest reviewing them at least daily, if not more often. Remind yourself of where you’re headed and how you’re planning to get there.
If you are struggling and feeling overwhelmed in the goal(s) you have set for yourself, step back and re-evaluate. Do you need to give yourself more time? Do you need tweak your goal(s) a little to be more realistic?
Practical Application
1) Write down your current habit/goal and put it in a conspicuous location.
2) If you’ve chosen a larger goal, break it down into bite-sized pieces and create a plan of action for the next few weeks or months.
3) Set up a weekly “appointment” with yourself to review and re-evaluate your goal(s) and how things are going.
How are you doing on your current habit? So far, I’ve stuck with my resolve to get up before 5 a.m. Monday through Thursday and before 7 a.m. Friday through Sunday. I’ve been amazed at how much more I’m getting done when I get up earlier!
Lunch out at Cracker Barrel
Cheese quesadillas, apples
PB&J, carrot sticks, apple slices
Annie’s macaroni & cheese, peas
Tossed salad with hard-boiled eggs, feta cheese, and dried cranberries
Leftovers x 2
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So, I did really well with keeping to my goal of getting up early all of last week. But by the weekend, I was quite tired. In fact, I came home from church on Sunday and took a two-hour nap–something I rarely ever do!
But I began this week feeling refreshed and ready to hit the ground running, even if things weren’t in as neat and organized of shape as I was hoping! Getting up early helped me to gain a lot of traction last week and I hope the momentum continues and I can get even further ahead this week. Just remind me to do better about going to bed before 10 p.m. 🙂
How did you do on last week’s goals? What are your goals for this week? I’d love to have you share your progress on last week’s goals and your goals for this coming week in the comments. Of, if you’ve blogged about it, leave your direct link below. Let’s cheer each other on to live purposeful and productive lives!
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Guest Post by Kimberlee from The Peaceful Mom
The holiday season is just around the corner. Here are three reasons why you should declutter now in order to have a happier Thanksgiving and Christmas:
1. Clutter Keeps You From Being Productive
Keeping disorganized piles of stuff lying around your home is a mental and emotional drain. Seeing those piles reminds you of things you need to do, but drains your energy and motivation to do them. Clutter makes it difficult to focus and makes it difficult to find the items you need to complete tasks.
Perhaps you want to make some DIY gifts this Christmas season. When your house is cluttered you may start a project only to find that you are missing an item. While looking for the item, you may get distracted by the piles of other stuff. Rather than finish your original project, you spend the rest of the afternoon dealing with those piles. So much for the handmade gifts!
2. Clutter Costs Money
Clutter not only prevents you from being productive, it also costs you money. When you are constantly distracted and wearied by the disorganized chaos in your home, you don’t have the energy to cook, plan or do other time and money saving activities. You may also spend extra money on gas and purchases because you “lose” items in your home or you forget that you have them.
When the clutter really begins to pile up, you may choose to spend time away from home to avoid it. Being “busy” away from home costs money: eating out because you’re too busy to cook, buying unnecessary items because you’re in the stores too often, and gas money driving to all the places you go to avoid being at home.
3. Clutter Keeps You Stuck Emotionally
Many times we hold on to stuff rather than dealing with our true feelings of fear or loss. We fear that we won’t have enough in the future or we fear that we will need the item we are holding onto, but we won’t be able to replace it.
The truth is that most items can easily be replaced for very little money. Is it worth the emotional drain of keeping the item rather than risking the money you may have to pay later if you actually need it? The freedom gained by dealing directly with fear and grief is far superior to the bondage of trying to keep those feelings buried. If you assess your situation and realize that you need to get rid of some things, don’t be overwhelmed. Instead:
::Grab a box for give-away items, a trashcan for throw-away items and set a timer for ten minutes. Clean one area until the timer goes off.
::If you declutter one area a day for only ten minutes, you’ll be amazed at how much you can accomplish in the next few weeks. The clean spaces in your home will fuel your motivation to continue and before you know it, you’ll have a clean house ready for the holidays!
Kimberlee is the creative (and sometimes cluttered) mind behind ThePeacefulMom.com where you can find more great organizing, money-saving and stress-free holiday ideas!
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As we talked about earlier, discipline is a choice. But you can’t just say “I’m going to be more disciplined” and then sit back and see your life change.
No, it will take work, effort, and much perseverance. There will be days when you do not want to follow through with your commitment. There will be many temptations to veer off course or throw up your hands in defeat.
Here are three suggestions to help you stay on track:
As soon as you start swimming against the current, you will start feeling resistance. It’s as if the universe conspires to keep you from succeeding. That’s why you have to anticipate these obstacles and build strategies to overcome them.
::If you’re trying to lose five pounds this month, plan what you’re going to eat ahead of time before you go to the holiday party so that your hard work doesn’t go out the window.
::If you’re trying to go to bed earlier every night, set your alarm on your watch or phone to remind you to leave the evening gathering early in order to get home and go to bed.
::If you’re making an effort to get places on time, plan to leave 30 minutes earlier than you need to so that an unexpected phone call or diaper blowout doesn’t derail you from being on time.
2) Be Realistic
Don’t set yourself up for guaranteed failure by aiming for unrealistic goals. As I mentioned yesterday, I’m focusing on re-developing the habit of getting up early. I know that on the weekends, it’s impossible to go to bed before 9:30 p.m. with the usual activities we have going on. So I intentionally decided ahead of time that for the next 21 days I would get up before 5 a.m. Monday through Thursday only. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday I’m aiming to be up by 7 a.m.
Sure, I’d like to get up by 4:30 a.m. every single morning. But, I just can’t realistically commit to that and follow-through with it. Otherwise, I’d be getting less than six hours of sleep some nights. I can function on less than six hours of sleep once every few weeks, but realistically I need to get seven to eight hours of sleep on a regular basis to feel energetic and function effectively.
3) Resist Negative Thought Patterns
Remove the words, “I can’t” from your vocabulary. Stop dwelling on the fact that you’ll probably fail at this challenge since you never seem to follow through with anything. Surround yourself with people who inspire and motivate you.
And remember that falling down is not failing–unless you don’t get back up again. Keep going, even when it feels like it’s an uphill battle that’s going nowhere, and your persistence will eventually pay off.
2. Consider what obstacles lie in your path as you seek to implement your chosen habit over the next 18 days. Create strategies to help you be prepared for them.
3. Step back and make sure you’re being realistic about your discipline goals. Do you need to tweak anything to help set you up for better success?
4. What negative thought patterns do you need to squelch? When they arise, how will you replace them with positive, inspirational thoughts?
Yesterday’s project update: Did you make a list of habits you want to develop over the next few years? I have an ongoing list for myself and my children. I doubt I’ll ever make it through the whole list (wait, what was that I just said about negative thinking in point number 3?!?), but at least I’m never going to run out of areas in my life to work on and improve in! 🙂
Note: I’m taking the weekend off from posting this daily series, but will be back with the next installment on Monday. Enjoy a little breather–but keep on with your discipline goals and projects. 🙂
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2. Clutter Costs Money
