Want to have a stronger marriage? In this episode, Jesse and I talk about our #1 tip for building a stronger relationship and having less conflict and disagreements.
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Jesse and I are so very, very different. And I love it so much (well, most of the time!)
Case in point: Jesse and I went to Home Depot recently to pick out lighting fixtures for the bathroom renovation. I walked in, scanned the shelves, and picked the first fixture that was inexpensive and looked like it would match.
Jesse, on the other hand, had spent at least an hour beforehand looking at multiple websites, researching brands, and comparing options. Then, in store, he analyzed the pros and cons, price, and durability of each potential lighting fixture.
Even though our differences can sometimes drive each other batty, the longer we’ve been married, the more we appreciate how our unique perspective compliments the other.
On the other hand, if Jesse were solely in charge of picking out a light fixture, he’d probably still be in Home Depot right now… because there’s always something else you need to research.
For instance, if I were the only one in charge of choosing a lighting fixture, my lack of research and hasty decision-making would land us with a lemon of a light fixture that wouldn’t work well and wouldn’t last.
And that’s why we need each other. He’s the slow down to my hurry up. And I love him so much!
When we stop trying to change our spouse and instead appreciate the gift that their differences bring to our life, it transforms our marriage!
In this episode, we share more about how learning to see, accept, and embrace our differences has changed our marriage in such a powerful way. And we share how this can apply to all relationships.
In This Episode:
[00:26] – We’re back! Hear about our foray into fostering through respite care.
[03:48] – What’s saving our lives? For Jesse it’s the YNAB app. For me? It’s Waze.
[11:41] – Jesse talks about a book he just finished and I read a poignant excerpt of a book I just finished that goes hand-in-hand with our last episode.
[16:33] – Today Jesse and I share about our number one tip for creating a stronger marriage (well, Jesse isn’t quite sure about that!)
[19:20] – We discuss one of the things that has caused the most conflict in our marriage and how it has played out over the years.
[22:09] – Trying to change your spouse never works… it only creates more conflict and tension.
[22:55] – The secret to healthier, happier relationships? Recognize, own, and embrace your differences and see them as a gift.
Links and Resources:
- YNAB app
- Waze app
- Backlash: A Thriller
- Preach to Yourself: When Your Inner Critic Comes Calling, Talk Back With Truth
- Crystal’s Favorite Things on Amazon
- CrystalPaine.com
- MoneySavingMom.com
- Crystal’s Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
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I am *so* glad you all are doing respite! We have fostered for years (well, adopted our 7th child which put us over the limit, had to relinquish our license for a few years until March of ’18 when we received a call asking us to take a sibling set that included a medically fragile kiddo. 16 months later, they’re still here & the case goal is now adoption…pretty sure my husband was joking when he said “Well, if God drops more kids on our porch then we’ll have the conversation about adopting them,” and that is *exactly* what God did.)
Anyways – we have started The Foster Closet Cooperative in Columbus, KS – you can follow along on Facebook, but we have lots of ideas of how friends of foster families can help them in their journey even if they’re not called to foster themselves and would love to share!
Thank you for shedding light on this extremely important mission field/cause!
Thank you for sharing your story and experience! -Jordan, MSM Team
Thank you so much for your encouragement! We’re currently in the middle of our home study and we hope to be licensed within the next 2-3 months!
You and Jesse sound just like me and my husband. He would’ve spent hours ahead of time reading product reviews, analyzing brand histories, checking Better Business Bureau ratings for light-fixture companies, weighing pros and cons of different styles, etc. He’s an electrical engineer and I’m a writer and sometimes his over-analyzing can drive me crazy! But we always end up with a quality product. 🙂
🙂 I love how we help balance each other out so much!