A testimony from Sandi
I had been dating Nathan for awhile when talk turned to marriage. We both highly approved of the idea, but I could tell something was making him hesitant about proposing. I had waited for this moment all my life, but it didn’t look like he was going to get around to it anytime soon. It was driving me crazy!
When we finally talked about it, I found out that the hold-up was money: he couldn’t afford a ring. A long-time bachelor, Nathan had gotten used to living exactly within his means; while he didn’t rack up credit card debt, he didn’t save very much either. I wasn’t about to let something so unimportant keep me away from the man of my dreams, so I came up with a plan.
Feeling a little embarrassed, I talked with a local non-chain jeweler about getting a wedding ring with a cubic zirconia instead of a diamond. I quickly added that we would upgrade to a diamond in a few years when we could afford it.
The jeweler surprised me by taking it all in stride. He confided that my idea was not new; a lot of couples buy a CZ first and then get the diamond later. I was elated! I picked out the ring I liked and went to Nathan with the plan.
How We Did It
He was dumbfounded when I told him. He was so happy and so relieved that I didn’t care about having the most expensive rock out there.
I told him I would rather have him, and would rather not start our marriage making monthly payments on a $4000 ring like a lot of my friends did. Dutifully, he went to the store and found the ring I had picked out.
He spent $300 cash on the CZ and the white gold setting, which has four tiny real diamonds in the band. (Admittedly, the price of gold has gone up a lot since we got our rings.) As a bonus, we got his simple white gold ring for $25 since we’d purchased both rings there, and the jeweler even engraved the inside of both rings with our favorite Scripture references for free. I used my ring as my engagement ring as well, so there was no added expense.
My ring is just what I want, and I love it. No one has ever guessed that the large “diamond” isn’t real! Now we are saving for that big rock replacement (on which I may not be so frugal! :)) and hope to get it next summer.
Sandi is a stay-at-home mom of 1.5 children who loves cloth diapers and coupons. Nathan is a few months away from graduating (debt-free) as a Registered Nurse. They’re favorite date is a Dr. Mario tournament on High speed (with Oreos) after their daughter is in bed.
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