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Holding both grief and gratitude

“I could be sitting on the sidelines, in blissful ignorance of the brokenness that surrounds me, enjoying the whole-ness of a sweet and sheltered life. Missing out on the beauty of breaking off pieces of my heart and my life to make another whole.” – Jamie from @fosterthefamilyblog

I look at this picture. I think of the last 9 months of loving this little guy. I think of the roller coaster of emotions we’ve experienced. I think of the brutal and the beautiful. I think of how our whole family has changed because of loving this little guy. I think of how we be gotten to see God show up in profound and powerful ways on our behalf. And my heart swells with gratitude.

We didn’t sign up for foster care because we are strong or brave, but because we were called. Because once we knew the need, we couldn’t stay in our safe bubble of comfort, we had to jump out and say yes — even when it terrified us.

And I reflect on this past year and I can say with 100% confidence: God has been so faithful.

In the many moments when it felt overwhelming and exhausting, He was faithful.

In the times when we felt lonely and scared, He was faithful.

Through the many unknowns, He was faithful.

I don’t know what God is calling you to. I don’t know what you are walking through. I don’t know what scary thing you might be facing that you know you are supposed to say “yes” to.

But this I know: God is faithful. He has been, He is, and He will be faithful. Rest in that, lean on that, and take the next step.

In this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I sit down and talk about what this last week has been like for us. We open up candidly about how the grief of saying goodbye to Champ has profoundly impacted us. We share what has been helping us, how we are processing this loss, what has been helping us, and how we are holding both grief and gratitude at the same time.

And because we didn’t want the whole episode to be heavy, we also talk about our road trip to Kansas, chocolate collagen, a book I’m reading to Kierstyn, a project Jesse recently finished, and a sweatshirt I am loving.

In This Episode: 

[00:46] This week has definitely been heavy and we’ll talk about that, but first…

[03:33] We got to go to Kansas recently. Hear about the trip.

[08:43] We had an unexpected event happen on the road on the way home from Kansas.

[13:07] Chocolate collagen is saving Jesse’s life.

[14:33] Our new deck furniture has been saving my life.

[17:08] I’m reading Stuart Little to Kierstyn.

[17:40] So, let’s talk about grief and gratitude. We’re sharing the story behind Champ going home.

[20:40] Why I’m so grateful looking back over the last week.

[23:35] Tuesday night and Wednesday morning were very difficult. I was hit with deep grief.

[26:14] Jesse was hit hardest the first night. Hear why.

[29:41] Why it’s important to allow yourself to feel the grief.

[32:04] What has been most helpful when I feel the cloud of grief come over me.

[34:04] Learning to receive from others instead of always being the giver.

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How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

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Photo by @emilyasheyphoto

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10 Comments

  • mary says:

    you all were so courageous to take care of him and show so much love to him and his family. God bless you as you grieve the parting!

  • Dee Cox says:

    ((HUGS!!)) Thanks for being willing to open your heart and home to these kids in need. It’s such an important ministry! We tried to get licensed to foster last year, but they turned us down because we don’t fully vax our bio kids. I’ve since become a CASA volunteer instead. There are so many ways to serve, even if you can’t open your home! CASAs are direly needed, and you can still make a difference and be a stable, positive influence in those kiddos’ lives. <3

  • Archie Davis jr says:

    The Podcast was great. I pray for good health for Champ. I continue to pray for your family.

  • Esther says:

    Thank you for sharing your journey with
    Champ with us over the last year. It has been a blessing to watch your family as you selflessly took care of him. I love your idea about flooding your mind with worship songs. Would you be able to do a post about your favorite worship songs? I would love that!

  • Stephanie says:

    I remember the day our first foster baby went home to be with his family. It was a day that my husband and me will never forget. From one foster mom to another, big hugs! The impact you had on him will be with him for the rest of his life. Each day will get easier! Much love to you and your family!

  • Beth says:

    First, thank you so much for what you’ve done for Champ. I was wondering if you could eventually do a blog post or podcast on how you were prepared for your calling. I’ve seen people that have said, “we feel called” to a specific ministry but then didn’t make it because they either weren’t prepared (their fault or someone else’s) and/or weren’t supported through the inevitable hard times.
    Throughout your journey you’ve mentioned things that you’ve done or read to be as ready as possible (with any ministry like that you can never be fully prepared) but would you consider putting together a list of things that specifically helped your family? Including life experiences. When I worked overseas with a group of EFL teachers some teachers’ success was better with certain training but life experiences also played a huge role.
    I have family members planning to do foster care, and adoption has always been an option for my husband and me but one we have not tried to pursue yet.

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