As women, we are often prone to take care of everyone else before ourselves. There are so many pressing needs around us and it’s so easy to prioritize those instead of prioritizing ourselves.
But the truth is this: I’m no good to anyone if I’m completely worn out and exhausted.
As I’ve talked about before, there have been long seasons of my life when I’ve just been in go-go-go mode. When my kids were little, it was a combination of them waking up multiple times in the night, them being at an age where I had to do most everything for them, and me trying to juggle their needs with a quickly growing online business.
{One of my kids colored this the other day and I just love it!}
As my kids got older and the business continued to grow, I struggled to prioritize time for myself because it felt like there were so many other demands on my time — kids going in multiple directions, homeschooling, managing our home, blogging, trying to keep up with social media, researching and brainstorming new business ideas, a team who needed me to manage them, business travel, prepping for speaking engagements, interviews, writing books, phone calls… the list of things I felt I needed to fit in was always longer than the time I had.
While I have gotten better and better at prioritizing self-care over the years and I’ve drastically cut back on my responsibilities and commitments, I think it will always be something that I have to really work being intentional with. Because of this, I’ve found that it’s helpful for me to define the five most important areas for me to focus on when it comes to self-care.
I want to challenge you to consider how you’re doing on self-care, too. Is it something you struggle to prioritize? If so, what areas are the most important areas you need to prioritize when it comes to taking care of yourself?
Here are my 5 areas where I try to focus on taking care of me — so that I can better invest into others:
1. Good Food
Food is your body’s fuel. What kind of fuel are you putting into your body? Is it fuel that nourishes and builds up and will help your body run at its best? Or is it junk and nutritionally deficient fuel?
While I love homemade desserts and ice cream, I try to make sure that the majority of my meals and snacks are good protein, good carbs, and fresh fruits and veggies.
We almost always keep some chopped up veggies, berries, apples, Greek yogurt, Ezekiel Bread, almond butter, farm fresh eggs and turkey on hand for quick snacks. By always having yummy ingredients on hand that I love and that also are nourishing to my body, it’s a lot easier eat healthfully.
2. Quality Vitamins
I am a big believer in taking quality vitamins every day. When I take my vitamins, I operate so much better, get sick less often, and have so much more energy.
Over the years, I’ve come up with what the perfect vitamin combination is for me. I occasionally tweak it, but for the most part, I’ve kept it the same for quite some time. My favorite multi-vitamins are the NOW Foods Special Two Vitamins. I’ve been taking these for a long time and they really make a difference.
I also take a probiotic, Vitamin D-3, Magnesium Citrate, and 5htp. I also LOVE essential oils! Some of my favorites are Balance and Calming, Immune Strength, Thieves, OnGuard, and Tummy Rub.
3. Water
We all know that we need to drink more water. If you are struggling with headaches, constipation, cramping, or other physical ailments, a lot of times, you dehydration can be a major cause.
I try to drink at least 8 glasses a day and I notice that when I do, I feel so much better and I am more thirsty, which reminds me to drink more!
We love filling our water dispenser with homemade flavored water to encourage us all to drink more water. (If you’re looking for Flavored Water Recipes, check out this post for lots of ideas and suggestions.)
4. Exercise
I got a Jawbone UP3 earlier this year and it has literally made SUCH an impact on my life. I realized within a few days that I was getting a lot less sleep and was a lot more sedentary than I realized.
The band has inspired and motivated me to make sleep and exercise a much higher priority.
I’m currently working out with my husband and a friend every week day using a pretty intense workout plan Jesse put together based on the book Thinner, Leaner, Stronger.
While the workouts are kicking my tail and I sometimes have a bad attitude because they are hard, I’m now at the stage where I’m all, “Bring it on!” Why? Because I have SO much more energy, feel so much better, and am already seeing some real, legit muscles in places where I’ve never seen them before. Plus, if I take a few days off, I can tell a difference — I feel more sluggish and unmotivated and I don’t sleep as well.
The best part is that my husband absolutely LOVES that I’ve become one of his workout partners. Our hour in our garage “gym” each day has become one of our very favorite parts of the day!
5. Things I Love
Take stock of your daily activities and ask yourself, “What am I doing to refresh myself?” Like we talked about earlier this week, make sure you are including at least a few things in your day that are things you love and things that make you happy.
For me, this can be simple things like reading a chapter from a book, taking a bath, savoring a cup of coffee, talking to a friend, watching a movie with my husband, listening to music or a podcast, posting on Instagram, taking a walk, reading to my kids, or even cleaning the house.
Challenge yourself to spend at least 5 minutes each day doing something you love. Give your soul space to breathe. It can make such a big difference in your day, how calm you feel, and it will give you more joy and energy, too!
What do YOU do to feel better and have more energy? I’d love to hear!
Susan JOnes says
What probiotics do you take? Thanks! And how many
Hannah says
Many of my questions you’ve already answered in the comments, Crystal. I’m wondering if you have a probiotic recommendation for kids that you’ve used?
Appreciate you so much!!! Thanks for your ministry.
Crystal Paine says
We haven’t used one brand specifically. My kids do drink some kefir and they love yogurt, so that’s mostly what we’ve stuck with for probiotics.
Christen Shoemaker says
I love this so much! About 6 months ago, I left my job to stay home with my kids and take care of our home. So while I actually have a lot LESS on my plate, it feels like so much more because there is no “me time”. I know this is a season of my life that will go way too fast, and I am so blessed to be home – I need to remember not to lose myself and my own identity in the process! Thank you for these tips!
Nikki says
I ??? to color any chance I get, even if it’s just a few minutes at a time. I keep my color books in a divided scrapbook satchel I got from Michaels. It has dividers for my markers/pencils and a large section that holds my color books. It even has a handle so i can take it anywhere…To me, coloring is a great escape and takes me back to a more simple time. Plus, some of the color books have amazing designs that are practically pieces of art when completed.
Jenni says
Why do you take the 5-HTP? Just curious – I have some that I ordered but I’m afraid to take it :).
Joanne says
Since I first read this article, I’ve been reading A LOT of what the author of Thinner, Leaner, Stronger has to say and I’m really, really wanting to try his method. Would you be willing to share your routine with us? I haven’t gotten the book yet but I’m looking for ideas on how to set up my workouts. Also, he’s into upping your protein–do you also take a protein powder to get enough each day? I’m vegan so I’m wondering if this is the only way to accomplish this. How long have you been working out this way and how long before you started seeing results?
Thanks for this article. Any help and/or advice would be really appreciated.
Karen says
Hey Joanne, I use a vegan protein powder that absolutely rocks and I just love how filling it is with almond milk. Here it is on Amazon. I also love the Arbonne protein powder–just pricey. Naturade Vegansmart All-in-one Nutritional Shake, Vanilla, 22.75 Ounce https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CWLA56O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_zbzLxbBQVFBZ9
Nicole says
I take Vitamin D3, B12, magnesium, and a probiotic every day too. I try to drink more water but it’s tough.
Nancy Rice says
How is the jawbone different from a Fitbit or any of the other trackers
Jill says
I’m loving all the personal posts you’ve been sharing lately. You are such an encouragement to me, as always, and it makes it extra fun seeing little glimpses of your daily life.
Crystal Paine says
Aw, thank you so much for your kind encouragement! I’ve been having fun sharing them!
Ellen@MommyHappiness says
I really enjoyed this post!! Especially since I just finished Day 10 of the MOYE course! It correlated with it very well! I am very intrigued with the vitamins and may have to try these out! I had also cut vitamins out of my routine….I had taken them when I was pregnant and stopped after thinking I didn’t need them…after some various health issues I think it is time to add them back to my self care routine! I have started taking vitamin D3 4000 IU but it is the Target brand….I would love to try out more quality vitamins…This may be what I need to do to feel better and more rested, although I am always afraid to try too many new things at once…did you add each vitamin slowly to make sure you didn’t have any reactions?
Thank you so much for this!
Crystal Paine says
Yes, I added vitamins slowly — so I could know what was working and what wasn’t working.
Jody says
I got the vitamins you use. The serving size says to take 4. Do you take that many each day?
Crystal Paine says
Good question! I only take 2 a day.
Jody says
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply!!
Tracy says
These are great ideas. This last year I’ve been running at least one mile every single day. It takes about ten minutes (give or take), but has had a tremendous impact on every part of my life. It’s amazing the difference you can experience when you just take a short amount of time each and everyday to focus on self-care. I’m really excited to see all the things you are incorporating lately to take care of yourself. It is a great example to other women that we don’t have to be miserable martyrs to be successful.
Crystal Paine says
That makes me so happy! Thank you for sharing — and way to go!
Lynn says
Although my children are mostly grown I have spent the last 10 years caring for other family members in need. Beginning in January I dubbed this as my year of rest, renewal and rediscovery. I cannot believe how tired I have been and just pushed through it all. It’s refreshing to take care of myself for a change.
Crystal Paine says
I’m SO glad you are taking care of yourself! That makes me so happy!!
Nicki says
What is the little blue plug in glowy thingie that is sitting behind your glass water jug on the counter, she asks curiously? 🙂 I’m totally doing your flavored water tip, by the way, we used to do this all the time and somehow I got lazy, forgot and it’s time to start up again. We really do drink a lot more water when it has some flavor to it!
Crystal Paine says
That’s a diffuser that I got from Rocky Mountain Oils to test out: http://go.rockymountainoils.com/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=1071
Raquel says
I also take the NOW Special Two vitamins for my multivitamin. 🙂 I have a lot of health issues so I’m always tweaking what supplements I take to try to hit optimum energy levels.
My most recent discovery is that getting molasses every day boosts my energy quite a bit. I grew up taking molasses in milk, but since then I found out that the calcium actually blocks a lot of the iron from being absorbed, so now I take my molasses in warm water with lemon juice as a kind of tea.
Crystal Paine says
Oh, that’s so interesting about the molasses! Thank you so much for sharing!
Rachel says
Crystal, can you tell me how big the vitamins are? I purchased a women’s one a day vitamin a few weeks ago and the pills are so huge, plus they give me a headache. I don’t want to spend the money to find out they are horse pills. I would rather take 2 smaller pills than 1 huge one. 🙂
Crystal Paine says
They have two sizes — the capsules are larger, but much easier to down than the non-capsules are.
Monica Overton says
I do not take care of myself like I should. I take care of everyone else. Somehow I missed the “oxygen-mask” speech and I just keep plugging away at the same pace that exhausts me. It seems that once I get “behind” on doing these things for myself that something else moves right in and takes their place! I need to be more intentional in this area for sure. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your vitamin recommendation.
J says
Monica, I don’t usually read comments and if I do, I don’t usually follow to other blogs! But today I did and I loved your happy mother’s day post. Thx for sharing your perspective. 🙂
Monica says
J- I’m so glad you stopped by my site. Your comment encouraged me today! Thank you!
Crystal Paine says
You’re so welcome!
Savannah says
I work a biochemist in the dietary supplement world and we provide NOW Foods with some of their ingredients! 🙂
I’ve started reading Savoring Slow on your recommendation and I cannot put it down, it is speaking to my heart so deeply!
Crystal Paine says
That’s COOL! Thanks for sharing!
Kariane says
I love this! Self-care is so important, and is something I’m working on too. Some of the things that help me are taking a walk alone, taking a hot bath [again, no kids in the bathroom!], and simply knowing when to take a break. For me, I think it all comes back to the importance of having quiet in my life. I wrote about it here: http://everydayintentionalliving.com/the-importance-of-quiet/ (I wrote about those other things too, though they’re in different articles).
Crystal Paine says
Thank you for sharing!
Shar says
Sleep! Early to bed; Early to rise!
Crystal Paine says
YES! That’s a good one — and it makes such a difference!
Tara Milar says
Great post! Thanks for the info. I am curious what vitamins you give your kids. I am never quite sure what to give them.
Crystal Paine says
I’ve given them different ones over the years. Here are the ones we currently use: http://amzn.to/1QZYpRn
Celena says
The link isn’t working. 🙂
Celena says
Just realized how old this post is. 🙂
Trisha says
Great post, thank you! I am feeling more motivated all ready. I really need to take better care of myself so I can be a better mom and wife!
Crystal Paine says
YAY!
Ruth says
Thanks for the post Crystal. Was wondering what probiotic you take?
Crystal Paine says
These are the ones I take: http://amzn.to/1QZYuob