For years, I had visions of the type of mom I would be. Calm, quiet, organized, patient, loving, creative… I was going to be all those things and much more.
Then I had kids. And very quickly, I realized I was not at all as patient as I thought I was! 🙂
Motherhood has shaped me, broken me, changed me, humbled me, and caused me to rely upon God more than ever before. And one of the most important lessons I’ve learned so far is to give up on perfect.
It’s fantastic to want to be the best mom I can be. I want to love my children well. I want to set a good example before them. I want to invest in them, love them, and nurture them.
But it’s impossible to do a perfect job. I will make mistakes. I will lose my temper. I will get frustrated.
Things won’t be all neat and orderly all the time. I will have days when I feel overwhelmed. I will have days when life feels hard.
My Non-Perfect Motherhood Mantras
Instead of getting frustrated over the mess, I want to embrace it realizing that messes mean little people are exercising their creativity — a skill that will take them far in life, no matter where they end up.
Instead of feeling disappointed in myself for losing my patience, I want to admit I was wrong and ask forgiveness of my children realizing that this probably speaks volumes more to my children than being a perfect mom ever would.
Instead of focusing on the hard and difficult things, I want to soak up the beauty in each moment realizing that a grateful attitude is one of the greatest gifts I can give my family.
Trying to be a perfect mom only set me up for frustration. Giving up on perfect has brought much more peace and joy — to our whole family.