Welcome to my weekly post I share a peek into our lives, talk about things I’m loving, share links to interesting articles or helpful ideas I’ve collected throughout the past week, and just talk about whatever is on my heart! ?
Kaitlynn had Spirit Week this past week at school and had fun dressing up for the different themes every day. Monday was Western Day and here was what she wore!
And I also made up a crockpot recipe that we really enjoyed!
I was so excited to find Sparkling Water for just $0.99 and Flowers for just $0.49 and $1.49 marked down at Kroger! Speaking of markdowns, I wrote a comprehensive post on How to Find Markdowns at Kroger.
I’m so excited about how our library bookshelves are coming together. They should be finished in the next few days! I can’t wait to show you the final product — and I can’t wait to get our books organized on these shelves!
Silas celebrated his 9th birthday by inviting a few of his closest friends to go with him and the girls to Home Depot for their free Kid’s Workshop (this was all his idea! He told me, “It will mean that the party is basically free!”)
We also had our traditional Mother-Son ice cream date. And we did some other fun things together as a family to celebrate and to celebrate him!
Don’t mind us, we’re just the crazy family who decided to spend 30 minutes having way too much fun trying to jump over these posts — while all sorts of people were walking by!
Swipe on the photos here to see all of our jumping — including one of my extremely graceful attempts. ??
And yes, it took me four tries to get it — one of which could have sent me to the ER since I almost landed on my head.
But am I a quitter? Nope. Not when everyone else in the family did it. You better believe Mama ain’t gonna be upstaged like that. ?
We might not feed our kids an all organic diet. They might sometimes go to bed an hour later than they probably “should”. We might barely make it to school on time some days. And we might have just finally gotten caught up on laundry after being behind for two weeks. But ya’ll, our post-jumping skills are on point! ?
The older my kids get, the less I worry about what people say we “should” do as parents and the more I focus on seizing the spontaneous moments to laugh and have fun together, building relationships, loving my kids right where they are at, and being okay with making a complete fool of myself in order to make memories.
Something I’ve Been Thinking About
As an awkward and often insecure introvert, I’m here to tell you that relationships are WORTH IT.
I am so much healthier and happier and more wholehearted as a person because I’ve opened the door of my heart (and my home!) and welcomed people in.
If you are struggling in relationships and longing for friends but feel like you don’t know where to start, who to invite, or you just don’t know that anyone would WANT to be your friend, I so get that.
I was lonely for a lot of years and felt like maybe I just didn’t know how to be a good friend because it felt like I couldn’t ever seem to find good friends or that I was constantly blowing it when I did find someone who I thought could be a good friend.
Here’s what has made such a difference for me in the past few years:
1) Recognize the unhealthy way I’m approaching relationships — and stop trying to seek others’ approval.
2) Stop believing lies about myself (“I don’t know how to be a good friend.” etc.)
3) Embrace my gifts and unique personality and live resting in the fact that I am fully loved by God.
4) Pray for two-way relationships where there is mutual give and take.
5) Understand what a life-giving relationship looks like and believe that I am capable of being a great friend and capable of being loved well by others.
6) Initiate, initiate, initiate. Look for those who don’t already have a large friend group in place and have space in their life for relationships.
7) Go first with honesty and vulnerability. Show up as your true self — not pretending or performing in order to impress them or hope they will like you.
8) Be upfront early on about what you are hoping for in relationships.
9) Don’t be discouraged if many of the relationships you pursue don’t pan out. Keep initiating.
10) When you do find someone who could be a great friend, lean in. Prioritize time with them. Show up for them. Show up fully. When you are scared or feel like pulling back out of fear, press in. Be honest. Don’t hold back. Don’t walk on eggshells. Give them the gift of getting to know you for exactly who you are.
And when the rough patches come, don’t run away… fight for your friendship. Good friends are worth the risk!
2018 Goals Update
1. Read 100 non-self-help books that will build me up/encourage me/inspire me/recharge me. (Fiction/story-driven/biographies/inspirational living books/devotionals.) See the list of 44 books I plan to read this year.
**Progress: 19 books read so far this year
2. Read through the entire Bible.
**Progress: I’m using the Robert Murray M’Cheyne plan and am all caught up— yay!
3. Write one handwritten note to someone every week.
**Progress: 20 notes written so far this year
4. Run 500 miles.
**Progress: 158 miles run so far
5. Go on an overnight trip with Jesse without the kids.Jesse and I went to NYC together in January.
6. Read 10 books aloud with the kids.
**Progress: I’ve finished one book so far.
7. Take the kids to South Africa.
**Progress: We bought our tickets this past week!
8. Go on a family road trip.
9. Save up to pay cash to finish off an office for me and workout room for Jesse and me in the basement in our new house.
**Progress: We started finishing out the workout room this past week.
10. Replenish our Emergency Fund (we dipped into it to replace my car when it got totaled because of the carpet beetle infestation.)
11. Increase our gross income from the business by 8%.
12. Launch 5 new courses.
**Progress: We launched 4 Weeks to a More Productive Life launched in January, Content Creation 101 in February, 4-Week Blog Coaching Program in March, Email List Setup 101 in March, and Make Over Your Mornings LIVE in April.