Mother’s Day isn’t always flowers and chocolate and handmade cards. For many women, it’s a hard reminder of something that isn’t, something that once was, or something that might never be.
Maybe you’ve lost a child.
Maybe you’re estranged from your mom.
Maybe your child has a life-threatening disease.
Maybe you’ve lost your mother.
Maybe you’re single and longing for marriage and motherhood.
Maybe that adoption you thought was going to go through didn’t.
Maybe you never really had a mother figure in your life.
Maybe you’re desperately longing for a child and struggling with infertility.
Maybe you are estranged from your grown child.
There are many, many reasons why today might be painful for you. I don’t know your exact circumstances or the burdens you are carrying today. But if Mother’s Day is hard for you, I want you to know this: You are not alone.
I can’t be there physically to hug you and pray with you like I wish I could, but I want you to know that I care about you and others in this community here do, too.
And I would be honored to pray for you — especially this Mother’s Day weekend. If you are struggling and would like extra prayer and encouragement, would you leave a comment on this post or send me a direct message?
I will individually pray for each of as a small way of letting you know that, while it might feel like the rest of the world is off celebrating, there are people who care about you.
You are loved. You are not alone. You are not forgotten.
Thar says
I always suggest thanking those women in your life who have poured mothering into others, especially if those “others” were YOUR kids. It truly does take a village.
Jordan says
That’s so very sweet! -Jordan, MSM Team
Jenny says
Thank you so much for this post! God bless you for thinking of the mothers who are struggling.my name is Jenny, I would love prayer as I am one of those mothers. I lost my daughter 3 years ago she was just 13 years old . I thank God for his grace and renewed strength everyday. Please pray for me and my family. Thank you in advance. Many blessings to you and your family.
Jordan says
I just stopped and prayed for you and your family. Praying for God’s blessing and peace! -Jordan, MSM Team
Crystal Paine says
I just prayed for you, Jenny. I am so sorry for your great loss.
Rebecca says
Thank you so much, Crystal! I am a 54 year old mom. I was told a long time ago by my doctor it would be hard for me to get pregnant. Praise God we have a 20 yo son and 10 yo daughter! I wish I could say since I’m an older mom that I’ve also been a wiser mom but that’s usually not been the case. I’ve been caught up in trying to be a “perfect” mom. I meant well but I often didn’t do well. I’ve missed out on so many opportunities to just enjoy the everyday moments with my kids. I’ve overprotected them as well. I feel terrible about this and am having a hard time forgiving myself for my mistakes and moving forward. My son has been gone for 15 months because he is now serving in the military. We haven’t seen him since he left! I have many regrets with him and with my daughter as well. I pray God will make up where I fell/fall short. I so wanted to be a loving, encouraging and fun mom who shared her life and faith in tangible and meaningful ways so that her kids would know, love and follow Christ. I felt so inadequate as a mom that I didn’t fulfill my desire to say the least. I am very concerned about my kids and their future. Praise God I am starting to see and believe that although I am inadequate, Christ is totally adequate and I need to rest in His love for me and then I can love my kids, husband, etc. I hope in spite of me they will have a close personal relationship with the Lord and will somehow know I love them dearly even though I haven’t demonstrated that to them like I’ve wanted to.
Jordan says
I just stopped and prayed for you! -Jordan, MSM Team
Rebecca says
Jordan, thank you SO much!! You have no idea how much your kindness in action means to me!! Blessings to you!! 🙂
Crystal Paine says
Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably and honestly. It really spoke to me as a mom. And I just stopped and prayed for you.
Linda H. says
I’d love prayer. 5 years ago, the day before Mother’s Day, we miscarried (at 20 weeks gestation) our “miracle baby boy” (we’d seen a fertility doctor who had told us there was a 90-95% chance we’d never conceive). This time of year is incredibly tough as I still have empty arms (we’ve not yet conceived & carried past 8 weeks since our son’s miscarriage) & often feel overlooked or neglected during Mother’s Day as I have no living proof of my motherhood.
Jordan says
I just stopped and prayed for you. Praying you experience God’s peace! -Jordan, MSM Team
Crystal Paine says
I just prayed for you, Linda.
Andre says
Thank you for thinking of us. One of my daughters is not speaking to me right now and I am really upset. I spent today alone and it’s been a difficult day.
Jordan says
Sending prayers and love that you can rest in God! -Jordan, MSM Team
Crystal Paine says
I just stopped and prayed for you, Andre!
Erin Louthen says
Thank you so much for this. I really needed to see it today. I hope you don’t mind, but I shared it on my Facebook page, giving you full author credit, of course. ❤️
Jordan says
You are always welcome to share our posts. Thank you for passing along this message to any who needed to hear it! -Jordan, MSM Team
Karen says
Crystal, thank you so much for this post. My 22-year-old son lost his best friend and roommate in August in a tragic car accident two days before they were supposed to start law school together. I’ve been struggling all day, wondering if I should text his mom to say I’m thinking of her. Thank you for letting me know that I should.
Crystal Paine says
I just stopped and prayed for your son and your friend.
Monique says
Thank you sooooo much for this post. I lost my mother/best friend suddenly in January and so this is my first Mother’s Day without her. While I have my own 3 beautiful children and a wonderful husband who have tried to make this day special for me, its still bittersweet. But on the bright side, I should be grateful that I had her for the 40 years that I did. Some people don’t get that.
Thanks again for pointing out that while most of us celebrate certain holidays, some of us struggle, so we need to be mindful and sensitive to those who may need some extra TLC during those times. Love, hugs, and prayers to everyone!
Crystal Paine says
I just stopped and prayed for you!
Claire says
Thank you for thinking of those of us who are struggling. My struggle is that I am currently being worked up for something potentially life threatening. An MRI last week showed something small but suspicious. It could be nothing, it could be something that just needs routine monitoring, or it could be really serious. We adopted our 13 year old son as a newborn, and he came into this world with strikes against him. He doesn’t need another tragedy. (I’m not the greatest mother in the world, but being motherless would definitely be a tragedy for him.) His future is precarious, and I need to be here to advocate for him. If it weren’t for him, I would be fine with God taking me today or 20 years from now. But I do not want to leave my son motherless. Please pray that doesn’t happen for many years to come, for his sake.
Crystal Paine says
I just stopped and prayed for you!
Claire says
Thanks so much Crystal! I really appreciate your prayers.
Jodi E Yarusinsky says
Thank you so much, Crystal. I am single (never married) at 43 and one month ago had a hysterectomy.
Crystal Paine says
I just stopped and prayed for you!