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Don’t Lose Heart!

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“There are no hopeless situations; there are only men and women who have grown hopeless about them.” -Marshal Ferdinand Foch

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  1. Marlene says

    My heart is with all of these needs and heartbreaking situations. May God bless each and every one of you abundantly. Praying.

  3. Justine says

    I saw the title when you intially posted this, but didn’t take a peek. I must say however, I needed this…. right here and right now. Thank you!

  4. Lindsey says

    I came looking for my sunday store match-ups and when that popped up I was like, “What?” Hmm….God ALWAYS cares but it’s nice to have little reminders. My dad is in the hospital right now dying of cancer. I’m 27 years old and he’s only 60. Tom. he meets with hospice to try and figure out where he’s going to go. I pray he will be able to go home even if my mom has to hire help. It’s heartbreaking and I fear that when the cancer doc told him last week there aren’t anymore options for him that he lost alot of hope. If anyone reads this and wants to pray for him, his name is George and he really needs it. When things like this happen you realize how trivial all this other “stuff” in life is.

    • Ashley P says

      I’m so terribly sorry for what you’re going through. I work in home health care, and I see it everyday, unfortunately.

      Hospice can be an excellent choice if he wishes to spend his last days at home. My grandmother died at our home under the watch of a hospice care nurse. If he’s in such critical condition, they may be able to provide him wit 24 hour care. If not, he will at the very least be able to have a nurse visit daily and possibly an aide to assist with sponge baths a few times a week.

      If he has any sort of long term care insurance, home health can help fill the gaps hospice doesn’t cover. But be careful. If you plan on billing Medicare, he can’t be on hospice and home health at the same time. (It’s a ridiculous law, but what government regulations aren’t often ridiculous?)

      If you plan on using home health to fill the gaps, call local agencies and ask for pricing. Often times it’s cheaper to get a “live-in” aide than to pay an hourly price. Our agency charges $15/hour, but only $150/day for live-in.

      I hope I was able to help. This is a very difficult time for you and your family, and you have my prayers. Sometimes having an idea of what to do makes all the difference. It’s easier to make decisions when you’re not confused about what this means or that means.

      God bless you and yours.

      • Lindsey says

        Thank you Ashley.=) It means alot. I live an hour away and have three small children so I’m often left out of the loop as my older sister doesn’t have any kids so she is the one they call for help. They meet in 2 hours to figure all this out. He does have medicare and private insurance through my mom’s job. This is very confusing though because hospice has never acted as if they will provide anything more then pain relief and up until he went into the hospital a week and a half ago he was with a home healthcare agency and I know they weren’t bathing him or even helping fix his lunch, which he wasn’t able to do himself. So thank you for your insight. I’ll be sure to pass it along to my family.

      • Lindsey says

        Thank you Ashley for the advice and prayers.=) I will definitely pass along the info to my family.

  6. Louise says

    I REALLY need this today! I have a 14 yr. old son who has autism and probably undiagnosed schizophrenia as well. He’s now violent and is raving at least half the day. Things are so desperate that I spent today calling psychiatric hospitals. I haven’t had any luck finding one that will take adolescents with autism or with our insurance. I was starting to feel hopeless and then this came up. Thanks. I know there is something out there for us!

    • Gail says

      Louise, my heart aches for you. I don’t know where you are, but there is a top rated hospital in Ohio. Many people travel from all over the US there for help. I am not personally familiar with the adolescent programs/hospitalization they offer, but here is a link http://www.lindnercenterofhope.org/PatientsFamilies/TreatmentsPrograms/AdolescentCare.aspx
      I understand that you may be unable to travel to Ohio to help your son, but I felt compelled to post. I hope that they will have an answer for you. Perhaps you can contact them for help, or a referral. I will pray for you and your Son.

    • anonymous says

      If he’s violent, have you considered taking him to an ER? Possibly they could find somewhere suitable that can help him.

      • Louise says

        Thank you, but that is what I’m trying to avoid because they will just stick him in the first facility that has a bed available. Some of the hospitals are great and some are horror stories, so I’m trying to find a good one that will take an autistic adolescent (and many won’t). But I’m not giving up!

  7. Anna says

    I so needed to hear this, too. I have due to have my third child in 6 weeks. I have two girls and it is a little boy…so excited, but my pregnancy has been filled with so many outside issues that tempt me to stress and to lose heart. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer 3 months ago. The cancer has spread to her brain…that has been so difficult. Also, my family recently (and currently) is going through another health issue that is really stressing me out. I am trying to stay focused on the Lord, but the voices of despair and sadness sometimes win out…so needing God’s strength right now.

  8. Guidemom says

    Oh I so needed to see this right now. We are blessed in so many ways and so stressed in others. Thank you reminding us to focus on the positive.

  14. Kara says

    That quote, like others said, was just what I needed today. What I also needed was to hear of hardships that other people are going through to remind me that my own struggles are manageable. Although we are just getting by each month and are taking a pay cut in September…I have a warm (rented) house for my husband and children, and we love each other dearly. We have food to eat, toys to play with, and even luxuries like cable/internet. Thank you for the reminder that God will provide and take care of us 🙂

  16. Ana says

    Hope is a gift, that God gave to us to bear and tolerate those hard times that we go through. If you hope and it doesn’t happen. Don’t stop hoping and praying, God has a way of teaching us. God will never leave your sight , he will guide and carry you through the tough times; it will only give you strength. For you all out there that are going through tough times, don’t be discourage with your problems, even if they seem so big and out of touch. Help comes in little packages too. Gods time is not ours and we are so impatient about when things are going to get better. This is a big problem that we all face. Hang in there and never stop believing, Gods way might not be your way. It can come in many ways we will never understand, but God have his ways to take care of us.

  18. Ashley says

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. We just found out yesterday that we’re going to have to use all of our emergency fund to pay the bills next month and we won’t be able to afford food until the end of April. It’s due to circumstances beyond our control. We had to put the car in the shop twice, help my dad pay bills on his house (He’s disabled, but they’re denying his disability), got an overdue bill that was sent to our old address (From over a year ago) even after we updated our address with the company when we moved, and just yesterday we found out the company that insures our car has gone bankrupt and our policy has been canceled. And we’ve already paid for the whole year! We’re going to see if we can get the remaining months refunded, but we’re not holding our breath.

    I was beginning to despair that my husband would have to take a second job and I would have to move back into my dad’s house. But I know God is watching out for me, and He’ll supply all our needs in His time.

    • Kate says

      Hang in there!! We had to help my MIL with her bills a few months ago and it still gets me down. It is so hard to help others when your hardly getting by yourself!

  21. Nicole says

    This is EXACTLY what I needed to read, (through my already tear filled eyes) this morning. Feeling a little sad about being stuck in a small house right now that we bought as a starter home 6 yrs. ago and now can’t get out of, and just found out ANOTHER friend is building a brand new home this summer. So happy for her, of course, but hard to not feel sad that we are stuck right now, since I am a stay at home mom. This was just the reminder I needed that there is hope, and it will all work out with God’s grace. I needed a gentle reminder that we are lucky to at least own a home, have two beautiful boys that I get to stay at home with, and we have no debt besides our mortgage. We make the ends meet every month, and we have what we need and a lot of love! Thank you, thank you, thank you… for this reminder and for all the great deals and ideas you post! 🙂

    • Traci says

      You are extremely blessed. I am a single mom who rents her tiny house and works 40+ hrs a week. Staying home with my two kids would be a dream come true. But…my kids are happy and healthy and I am debt free too. There is always someone worse off and always something to be greatful for. God bless you and your family.

      • Caitlin says

        I agree! I would love to have a house of my own. Right now my husband and I are both in school, we have a one year old, and we work from our apartment. I’d love to have a place to call mine, but I know it’ll happen one day 🙂

  27. Christina says

    This is a fantastic quote and it really applies to my life right now.
    Thank you for posting!

  28. Stephanie says

    Thanks. I was fired from my job last year and have been on unemployment since. I haven’t been able to even get an interview for a new job. My former employer is now taking me to court to protest my unemployment. I have started to think “I’m a good person, why is this stuff continually happening?” Through every hardship, we become stroger and all is not lost through one (or several) trials.

    • Tammy says

      Sorry to hear about your former boss and the unemployment.My husband lost his job last June -at that time it was his 6 within 4 years.His boss protested the unemployment .After 3 times the employer won 2-1.Eventually we will have to pay back about $6,000 dollars to the Unemployment Commission.His boss was in Indiana and I have now read that this happens lots there.

      Agree with the statement above-very easy to grown hopeless because I prayed that my husband would win and not have to repay .We are trying to get out of debt not in.

    • Brit @ MomAnswersWithBrit.com says

      That is hard. We are going through the same situation right now in my life. My husband was fired from his job and we are also on umemployment barley hangng on. I just wrote a post that I think might find you encouragement. http://momanswerswithbrit.com/?p=50

      Next week I’ll be open to a little of the struggles we’re going through and still finding contentment. It is so hard though! I just said a prayer for you. 🙂

      • Stephanie says

        Thanks for your kind words. There really should be a length of time an employer can dispute your claim. If I lose, I too will have to pay back about $7,000. I just don’t get the system in these times. I’m in New York state. It’s very upsetting. It amazes me though that I can bring home less than half of what I did and it seems like I have more money each week. Of course, this site helps with the incredible savings and I appreciate that great. For you Crystal!

    • Milk Donor Mama says

      The same happened to my Dad last year. He went to the court hearing about his boss’ claim, and he still lost. He could’ve requested a jury hearing but stopped it there. He had to pay back about $3k. As this happened, my mom lost her job too. My parents have been without health insurance and only have gotten sporadic work over the past 15 months.