As parents, we want to train our children to be lifelong givers. Not only will it impact many lives, but it will give them so much blessing and fulfillment in return.
Here are five ways we’re seeking to teach our children to be givers:
1. Model It
More is caught than taught when we’re raising children. We can tell our kids how important giving is. We can read them stories of people who give generously. We can stress how much of a difference we can make in the world. But our actions will always speak louder than words.
Let your children see you giving generously — whether that’s opening your home up to those in need, serving in a local soup kitchen, going on a missions trip, giving to a charity near and dear to your heart, or sacrificing time and effort to help someone who is struggling.
We involve our children in much of our giving. We collect money as a family to give to causes we believe in. We often have them right next to us when we’re reaching out and serving those who are struggling. We write letters to our Compassion children. In the big and little things, we want to model a life of giving for our children.
2. Teach It
While modelling giving in front of your children is the highest priority, it’s also imperative to teach them why we give. Don’t expect them to just pick up on it all on their own. It’s important to help them understand the why behind the what.
We’ve sat our children down from a young age and explained to them the reasons behind why we’ve chosen to stay out of debt, to live simply, and to not use credit cards. It’s not just so that we can be in a better financial situation, but so we can be in a position to give generously.
As opportunities arise while we’re living life, we continue to talk with them about how blessed we are when we give. When they participate in a giving project with us, we talk with them about how it makes them feel, about what an impact they are making, and how we want to continue to live simply so we can give generously.
3. Simplify It
Giving doesn’t have to be big and elaborate. It’s often the simple things that can make a big difference.
Look for opportunities that might seem small, but that are perfect for a young child to be apart of. We love Operation Christmas Child for this reason. It’s something that the whole family can be involved and a project that our children get really excited about.
We also encourage our children to earn money by jobs around the house and then to use some of that money for giving projects. Last year’s family giving project was spear-headed by the girls. And they’ve decided to do the same this year and have been working hard to fill the money box with cash they’ve earned from chores.
4. Practice It
As often as is possible, give your children little opportunities to serve and give. Develop the habit looking for ways to bless others from a young age. A life of giving is borne out of practicing the attitude of serving again and again until it becomes your natural response.
Have them help you around the house. Encourage them to do things to bless their grandparents or elderly neighbors. Give them chances to give up what they’d like to do or have in order to help or bless someone else.
5. Celebrate It
Giving is so much more fun when you celebrate it! Find the joy and excitement that comes from giving anonymously.
Give lavishly of yourself for others and you’ll be so blessed in return (Need some encouragement in this? Go get yourself a copy of Love Does by Bob Goff.)
And most of all, praise your children when you see them being givers. Celebrate their giving spirit and it will only inspire them to give more generously in the future!
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This is said beautifully! My favorite point is about keeping it simple. Simplicity breeds success in this area, and my family’s most treasured memories these days are the ones where we were serving together!
I enjoyed seeing that this post was underwritten by Shultz Photo School – Kyle has done our family’s photos a couple of times! He is an incredible photographer and a wonderful person! http://www.blessedbybrenna.com/2012/09/to-say-i-love-these-photos.html
I so enjoyed this post! I raised my daughter to give of her time. While she was growing up we didn’t have much money. I hope more parents see this post and strive to raise their kids to serve as God has called us too. Its so important to be that example for our children. It makes them realize the world doesn’t revolve around them. Thanks for post.
I love this. I have always appreciated your example of giving generously, Crystal.
For several of our children’s birthday parties (they are 5, 4, and 2) we have asked guests not to bring gifts, but instead bring non-perishable food items (or monetary donations) for our local food pantry. We talk with our children about where the food goes and why it’s needed. They realize that it is a sacrifice to not receive toys and fun gifts from their friends, but feel happy to help others. They are excited to help deliver the food to the food bank and make the cash donation. I had a friend do this on a larger scale for his wedding. Instead of gifts, they asked guests to make a donation to the local foodbank in their honor.
Our children have a give, save, and spend envelope. They earn money through weekly chores and give weekly to church. Our son has an envelope to save money for a donkey for Samaritan’s Purse. What money our children save for this ministry, we match it. They get really excited about giving this way.
Will there be a “deal” forthcoming from the Schultz Photo School soon?
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