Forgiveness was one of the last topics Lysa TerKeurst ever wanted to write a book on. But in this episode, she shares how her view of forgiveness changed as she walked through the devastating and earth shattering experience of her husband’s betrayal, unfaithfulness, and addiction.
The pain was so terrible it would literally stop her in her tracks no matter where she was, unable to move — including in the middle of Target or in the produce section of the grocery store.
In this episode, Lysa shares very vulnerably what it was like to walk through that heartbreaking experience, how it changed her view and understanding of forgiveness, and the steps she took to find healing.
What do you do if the pain feels too intense to forgive? Is it possible to forgive even if the other person won’t change? And what should you do if you are in a situation where you keep getting hurt over and over again?
Lysa shares the answers to those questions and many more in this can’t-miss episode. I believe this is one of the most important episodes I’ve ever recorded; please don’t miss it. And if your heart is especially hurting right now, I think her words will be a balm to your wounded soul.
Also, please go get a copy of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget.
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In This Episode:
[01:30] Lysa shares a peek into her family and ministry.
[03:43] Why Lysa didn’t want to write this book.
[07:18] What caused her extreme sadness, anger, and feelings of resistance to forgiveness.
[09:24] Learn what her therapist did to help her reach a point that she could forgive.
[13:01] Why forgiveness is a gift that you can receive for yourself.
[14:56] What happens when you stuff pain down and refuse to acknowledge it.
[17:22] Lysa’s first memories of forgiveness.
[20:00] What did she do after acknowledging her pain?
[26:13] Lysa’s advice for the woman who is living in their pain.
[29:29] It doesn’t make you an unforgiving person to draw boundaries.
[30:43] Where she is now after writing this book.
Links and Resources:
- Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst
- Proverbs 31 Ministries
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
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- My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
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Thank you for sharing this. I listened to your podcast. My sister , unfortunately, is going through a similar situation as Lisa. I shared this with her. However, she already had a copy of Lisa’s book. My sister has preordered it. Praying it encourages her and gives her peace. ❤️
Crystal Paine says
I hope that the book encourages her. I just stopped and prayed for her.
Sorry trying to figure this out but I saw comments and replies Lysa gave earlier but I can’t see them now, where did I find those at before?
Do you mean on this blog post? I don’t think Lysa has commented on this blog post. Where did you see the comments/replies? Sorry I can’t be of more help! -Meg, MSM Team
I so appreciate Lysa’s authenticity. This episode was such a blessing.
Rebecca Bailey says
Thank you for sharing!
Archie Davis Jr says
One of your best Podcast ever. Keep up the great work.
This is so helpful and ministers to me in my situation!
Crystal Paine says
I’m so grateful it encouraged you!