3 Ways To Be A Better Friend

3 Ways to Be a Better Friend

Last weekend, I flew to Maryland to see my friend Tam speak at the Whole Women Weekend Conference. When Tam posted about this on her Instagram account, comments popped up about what a wonderful and caring friend I was.

As I read the sweet and kind comments from Tam’s followers, I kept thinking in the back up my mind, “But that’s just what friends do…

All of this made me reflect on friendship and how this is an area I’ve learned a lot about and grown in during the past five years. As I’ve shared here before, for many years, I craved authentic and meaningful friendships with other women but struggled to develop anything other than more surface-y relationships.

I wondered if something was wrong with me, if I just wasn’t connecting with the right people, or in the right circles. It took me a long time to realize that these types of relationships are out there, but you have to look for them. And they don’t just happen; they have to be cultivated.

After years of praying for safe friendships and learning many lessons along the way, I’m so humbly grateful for the rich gifts of deep friendships in my life with some of the most beautiful women.

3 Ways to Be a Better Friend

In the last two years, many women have come to me and asked how I’ve found and cultivated close relationships. While I’m still learning and still growing in this area, I wanted to share three ways I’ve learned to be a better friend:

1. Show Up.

Sometimes it means sacrifice or rearranging schedules. Other times it may even mean getting less sleep or stopping in the middle a project. There will be times when you have to stop what you’re doing to show up: to be with a friend, call a friend, text a friend, or listen to a friend.

When you make a commitment to show up, that’s when friendships blossom. With Tam, we have a commitment to see each other every Monday evening. No matter what is going on in our lives, unless we are out of town or sick, we show up at the same time every week as families to just be together. As a result, our friendship has flourished.

Showing up doesn’t necessarily just mean in person. It could be showing up by texting a friend to ask how she’s doing. It could be sending a card. It could be making a phone call. It could be sending a gift. It could be an offer to help. It could be dropping something on someone’s front porch.

It will look different in different situations. But in every case, it will mean us being willing to open up ourselves — our time, our schedule, our gifts, our hearts — to show someone that we care about them.

3 Ways to Be a Better Friend

2. Go First With Vulnerability.

Be the first to say “what’s going on in your life?” and to share authentically. Sometimes we are fearful of opening up and letting others into the deep, raw, vulnerable places of our hearts and souls.

When you choose to go first with vulnerability, it makes the other person feel comfortable to do the same as a natural response.

Bravery and honesty in relationships are what breeds depth. When we say, “This hurts.” Or, “This is hard.” Or, “I’m struggling.” Or, “Will you forgive me?”

3. Ask Great Questions and Then Listen.

My mom taught me this. She is the most amazing “question asker” in existence. She can have a conversation with pretty much anyone for hours because she knows how to ask great questions.

When you ask questions, it opens up the door for people to share with you because it shows you’re interested. And the most important part is to listen after you ask the question. Wait for a response, and ask a follow-up question.

One thing I like to ask people when I meet them but know very little about them is to say, “Tell me about yourself.” It’s an open-ended question that usually provides enough springboard for me to ask follow-up questions and then really get to know someone.

3 Ways to Be a Better Friend

If you struggle to know how to crack the door into deeper relationships, a few starter questions could be things like: “How are you really doing?”, “What are you excited about right now?” “What is the hardest thing going on in your life?” or “What are you learning right now?” or “How can I pray for you?”

These questions are so much better than just saying “How was your day?” These kinds of questions give you a peek into someone’s heart and pave the way for closer, authentic friendships.

How do you invest in your friendships? What suggestions or tips do you have for ways to be a better friend? Tell us in the comments.

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How to get a month’s supply of diapers and wipes for FREE!

Check out this HOT ePantry deal!

Did you see the HOT diaper/wipes deal I posted earlier this week?

Well, it’s a really great deal on its own and I’m loving that so many of you have gotten excited about it! But I have even better news for you!

You can share this amazing deal with your friends or blog readers or Facebook followers and earn free credits to use on future diaper purchases (or any purchases from ePantry!) That means free diapers and/or free organic and all-natural household supplies!

Just sign up for an ePantry account, take advantage of this deal Baby Bundle Deal, and then grab your referral link (it should show up as a pop-up when you go to checkout) and share it with friends on social media or via email or your blog. You’ll earn $10 for each person who signs up and purchases through your link!

Did you see this HOT deal on diapers and baby wipes? Get all of this for just $29!!

The HOT $29 Introductory Baby Bundle Deal

Here are all the details on this hot deal:

This Introductory Baby Bundle deal from ePantry is available exclusively to MoneySavingMom.com readers this week only!

This deal is valid for new or existing ePantry customers through September 7, 2015 only.

The Introductory Baby Bundle is a $67 value, but MSM readers can get it for just $29 for the first month. The bundle comes with the following:

  • 5 packs of Seventh Generation Diapers
  • 2 packs of Seventh Generation 64-count Baby Wipes
  • 1 Grove Collaborative Hand Sanitizer

Here’s how to get your $29 Introductory Baby Bundle.

If you’re a new ePantry customer:

  1. Click on this link.
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  4. You should see the $29 bundle on the review page. Shipping is free.
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If you’re an existing ePantry customer:

  1. Click on this link.
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With the introductory bundle, you’ll be enrolled in ePantry’s monthly diaper baby bundle service with *exclusive* MoneySavingMom.com pricing of $55 per month for a full supply of premium diapers and wipes — more than 30% off, no coupons required!

As your baby grows, ePantry will adjust the diaper size to make sure you’re getting the right size diapers each month. You may cancel at any time.

How to Earn $10 in ePantry Credit When You Share This Deal:

To grab your referral link, look for the pop-up at checkout offering you the option to refer friends and earn $10 for each friend who orders. Send them the link, have them sign up under you, and then send them to this post to get in on this great deal!

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Read more about ePantry here.

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Kiwi Crate: Get $10 off your first month

40% off Kiwi Crate

Kiwi Crate is a monthly subscription service that offers kid’s educational projects, crafts, and activities on different themes. You can get a subscription for as low as $16.95 per month for the box — including shipping. This box will include 2-3 projects, all the materials to complete those projects, plus hands-on learning activities and more.

They offer monthly crate subscriptions for various ages: Koala Crate is for ages 3-4, Kiwi Crate is for ages 4-8, Tinker Crate is for ages 8-14+, and Doodle Crate is for ages 9-16+.

After I wrote my Honest Review of Our Experience with Kiwi Crate post, some of you have asked me if there were any coupon codes or offers for their monthly subscriptions.

Since coupon codes and offers from them are pretty far and few between, I wanted to let you know that through September 13, 2015, they are offering $10 off your first month subscription when you use coupon code LABORDAY10 at checkout.


Please note: If you are planning to cancel after your first order, you may have a hard time doing so. Read about my experience in trying to do so here.

However, if you are looking for a great gift for grandparents to give your kids, I highly recommend these. All of our kids got a 3-month subscription from grandparents for Christmas and LOVED it!

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Free Doughnuts at Krispy Kreme on September 19, 2015

Free Krispy Kreme doughnuts

Mark your calendars! Krispy Kreme is offering free doughnuts on September 19, 2015 in celebration of Talk Like A Pirate Day.

Talk like a pirate to get one free original glazed doughnut, or dress up in full pirate attire to get a dozen free original glazed doughnuts. You can use some templates here to help you get started with your costume.

Valid at participating locations, so be sure to call ahead to verify your store is participating.

Thanks, My Frugal Adventures!

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Free Admission for Military at SeaWorld, Busch Gardens, and more!


U.S. active duty military can get free admission to SeaWorld, Busch Gardens, and other associated theme parks this year.

Participating parks include: SeaWorld®, Busch Gardens®, Adventure Island®, Water Country USA®, Sesame Place®, and Aquatica SeaWorld’s Waterpark™ in San Diego.

Valid once per year for one military personnel, plus 3 direct dependents.

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