Guest post from Dawn of One Faithful Mom
In January of 2012, I made a long list of goals for the year and divided into different areas of my life. I had spiritual goals, physical goals, personal goals, and writing goals.
By the summer, I had already failed at most of them. So at the beginning of 2013, I knew that if I was to be successful in making needed changes, I had to do it in a way that would suit my more Type B personality.
I decided to make just a few, simple goals. I focused on things that I knew would make a difference in my life, but that would not overwhelm me. Here are the four things I chose:
1. Wash and moisturize my face every morning and night.
I know, silly right? But I have never been totally consistent with this. My skin, at 45, is not like it was at 20, and it was beginning to show!
I was almost embarrassed to say this one out loud when our family shared our goals with each other, because it kind of seemed ridiculous. But two of my teenagers made it one of their goals also! It helps that this goal shows very quick results. That motivates me in my other areas.
2. Plan out our evening meal.
What? A mother of ten has issues with planning meals? The answer is yes!
I know that many of you have a working meal plan, and perhaps even shop according to that plan. But my Type B self just does not work that way. I’ve tried, I really have!
So, I set this goal to help me learn to be consistent in planning our meals, even if that means I just know what leftovers are available. This has relieved the 5:00 stress of wondering what’s for supper!
3. Spend time with my children every day.
Again, this seems obvious, but I have noticed that I am often distracted with other things. Every day, I want to take time to read a book, do a puzzle, sing, play, or even work together in the kitchen.
In the book How to Really Love Your Child, author Ross Campbell suggest three things parents should do every day: give focused attention, make eye contact, and show physical affection. Those are the three things I am working toward.
And again, this type of goal gives near instant results. The smiles and laughter of my children tell me I am getting this one right!
I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. I lie in bed at night with all these ideas swirling around in my brain for writing projects.
So this year, I decided to make it a goal to write something every day; even if it is just a couple of sentences. I have asked two of my writing friends to collaborate on some things. Bringing someone else into the goal keeps me accountable. I can’t be lazy about it when someone else is waiting for my part!
It has brought a spark back into my writing, and I am excited to see what I can accomplish this year.
Well, those are my four goals. You may be laughing right now at the sheer simplicity of them. Maybe you can’t believe that someone could be that undisciplined. Or maybe you are like me, and need to hone in on the small things in your life.
When the small things are out of control, it seems like everything is out of control. And who knows…maybe next year I will be ready for some big, crazy, outrageous goal?
After I wash and moisturize, that is!
Dawn has been married to Andy, her high school sweetheart, for over 28 years. They have ten children, two beautiful daughters-in-love, and a precious grandson. She blogs over at One Faithful Mom, where she encourages mothers to be faithful in the everyday lives of their children.