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Answering Your Burning Questions

You all love it when we do Answering Your Burning Question podcast episodes. It’s been awhile since we’ve done one, so I posted recently on Instagram asking for questions you’d like Jesse and I to answer on the podcast and you had lots of great suggestions.

We went through as many as we could on this episode — including talking about Kathrynne’s new job, budgeting, where we’d love to travel, how we find time for intimacy (this was the number one asked question!), where would we love to travel to, date nights, would we take more foster care placements right now, and much more!

Jesse and I also discuss teaching Kathrynne how to drive, our vacation to Arkansas, the books we’re reading, and how I’m getting in exercise right now.

In This Episode: 

[00:33] We’re answering your burning questions on today’s episode.

[01:29] RODECaster Pro is saving Jesse’s life. 

[03:26] Why Jesse is teaching Kathrynne how to drive instead of me.

[04:53] This year our big trip is going to Arkansas.

[06:11] Morning walks with the double stroller are saving my life.

[08:22] What we’re reading right now.

[10:35] How did Kathrynne land her first job? 

[14:19] Why did we move to Tennessee? 

[16:02] Learn more about our decision to quit the law firm and work for ourselves. 

[17:44] How we find the time and energy for intimacy. 

[18:59] Do we sit and go over the budget together? 

[20:25] Where do we want to travel together? 

[21:25] What does Jesse make fun of me for? 

[22:54] What are your go-to date nights?

[24:58] Would we take any more foster care placements right now? 

[26:39] How do we build each other up?

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Parenting a Passive Child (our best tips!)

A few weeks ago, Jesse and I recorded a podcast episode sharing our thoughts on parenting a strong willed child (or a “strong child”, as we prefer to call them). We got so many great responses from people about that episode, but one was a question from a mom asking if we could talk about how to parent a child with the opposite type of personality — one that is more passive and people-pleasing.

This was such a great suggestion and Jesse and I loved getting to talk about this and give some ideas and suggestions that we’ve learned over the years from parenting our child who is more on the passive side. I’ve had to learn to slow down, listen better, and not try to push them to make a decision before they are ready. It has been so good for my fast-moving, quick-thinking personality and I’ve learned so much by doing so.

In this episode, we share lessons we’ve learned, how changing our perspective allows us to parent with greater patience and understanding, and how much our passive child has taught us.

We also share some life and family updates, an app Jesse is loving, how protein is making such a difference for me (and why I changed my mind about collagen!), and the audiobooks we’re both listening to!

In This Episode:  

[02:16] A little family update + what our topic is today.

[06:32] The Couch to 5k App is saving Jesse’s life… again!

[08:02] Protein is saving my life.

[11:33] I’ve been reading The Way I Heard It by Mike Rowe.

[13:43] Jesse is still on Scribd and is listening to Vince Flynn’s series.

[15:42] We received an email from a listener asking about how to parent a child who has a quieter more passive personality. 

[16:57] How you communicate your conviction will look different from person to person.

[19:56] People-pleasing can be positive or negative.

[23:41] Let them take their time in making decisions.

[26:11] Listening is a lost art. You have to show that you value what they have to say.

[27:44] Learn about their personality and call out their strengths.

[29:47] Love them for who they are.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

How to Effectively Talk to Your Spouse About Money

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As promised, Shaunti Feldhahn is joining me on the podcast this week to talk about marriage and money. Shaunti and her husband Jeff are researchers who have worked together for years on numerous books and research projects.

Their latest project surveyed thousands of couples on the topic of marriage and money. Throughout three years of research, they discovered five game-changing insights on what is at the root disagreements and tension surrounding relationships and money.

In their latest book, Thriving in Love and Money, they share their findings and how we can learn to get on the same page with our spouse when it comes to money by changing our mindset and approach. They also share how these insights helped to change their relationship — and many other relationships.

If you struggle to have money conversations between you and your spouse, this is the episode for you. Learn more about the psychology behind our money beliefs and why being able to talk about money with your spouse is one of the key factors in strengthening your relationship… even moreso than having a great nest egg in the bank.

In This Episode: 

[02:31] How did Thriving in Love and Money come to be?

[04:56] How the process of researching and writing this book affected Shaunti’s relationship with her husband. 

[06:39] One of the best ways to go through this book is at the same time with your spouse. Learn why.

[08:10] What are the 5 insights detailed in the book? 

[12:19] How many people were surveyed and interviewed in this project? 

[13:52] Shaunti shares the first steps you should take to start opening up channels of communication with your spouse.

[18:34] Listen as I share one of my favorite pieces of the book and why. 

[20:57] Many of us subconsciously believe that our views are right and alternative views are wrong. Here’s how to overcome the tensions that can come from disagreements.

[23:22] Why Shaunti believes that being able to talk about money is more important than having a cushion in your budget when strengthening your relationship. 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Jesse’s Advice for Raising Financially Responsible Kids

“I would love for you to do an episode with Jesse sometime on how he’s taught your kids about budgeting, money, setting up a bank account, etc.”

This request came in a few weeks ago, and I knew it would be a perfect podcast topic!

So, in this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, I interview Jesse on how has has instilled wise money management principles in our kids — especially as they have gotten older and have begun earning their own money.

He shares his thoughts on budgeting, when to have your kids open up their first bank accounts, how to teach your kids to view money as a tool, why letting your kids handle money from an early age can make such a difference, when he first learned to handle money, how to teach your kids the true value of money and how that translates to real life, and much more. It was fun to get to sit back and listen in as he shared his wisdom and advice.

Also, I should warn you that Jesse and I start the podcast in a bit of an uncharacteristic way… and if this is your first time to listen to one of our episodes, you might be a little, um, caught off guard?? We discuss a surprising discovery about asparagus and urine… and well, it goes a little off the rails. But I hope it makes you laugh! 🙂

In This Episode: 

[00:33] Learn a little bit more about Jesse’s 23andMe results. 😉

[03:26] Pelvic floor therapy is saving my life. 

[08:23] The Scribd App has been saving Jesse’s life and he’s been reading The Kill Artist by Daniel Silva

[12:06] I am reading Thriving in Love and Money

[15:51] When should parents start talking to their kids about money? 

[18:28] Is there a right age or a certain amount of maturity to be on the lookout for? 

[19:18] Which accounts should kids have? 

[20:27] Setting up budgets and spreadsheets.

[22:28] Should you teach your children all the same way or go with their interests and aptitudes? 

[27:26] Why learning the value of money at an early age is so important.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Our Family’s Top Five Favorite Games

Board games and card games can be such a great way to have some frugal fun! Best of all, once you’ve invested in a game, you can play it over and over and over again — without ever spending another dime!

In this week’s episode of the podcast, Jesse and I share our family’s top five favorite games. We had a very hard time narrowing the list down to just five, but we did it (well, we did mention a few other favorites at the end, because we just couldn’t help ourselves!)

The games we picked are ones we have played again and again and again. They are great for group games and most can be played with 4-6+ people.

In this episode, we also talk about Jesse’s 23&Me DNA test results (and why I don’t want to take the test!), a book recommendation from a reader, a video that had me smiling, and how Jesse is getting free coffee every day.

In This Episode: 

[00:33] Who’s ready to chat about our favorite games?

[01:15] Panera’s coffee is once again saving Jesse’s life. Listen in to find out how to get it FREE all summer!

[04:00] He also got his 23andMe results back and they were, um, interesting.

[07:35] What’s saving my life? Another YouTube video!

[09:20] Schindler’s List is also a book and it was recommended to us by one of our amazing listeners. 

[13:08] Who’s ready to talk about games?

[13:39] First up, Dutch Blitz, the card game — probably at the top of our list.

[15:07] Next is Double Ditto, a game my parents introduced us to.

[16:14] Another one is Ticket to Ride… which is Jesse and the kids’ favorite.

[18:36] I love Mad Gab — especially when played with a group.

[20:15] Last but certainly not least is Phase 10, a game we played a lot in our early marriage.

[22:06] A few more games that didn’t make our top 5 list.

[26:34] What are your favorite games?

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

“Could you share some parenting advice for raising my enneagram 8 daughter? She is very headstrong and persistent, but has a complete disregard for rules and regularly challenges authority. As an enneagram 5 (and people pleaser), I do not understand the way she thinks. We have gone around and around and I’ve tried to get to the heart is the issue. But it seems her bottom line is she is going to do whatever it takes to get what she wants. How do I help channel her perseverance and tenacity in a positive way? She is only 8 years old. -a podcast listener”

When I got this email in my inbox, I could relate so much — because I remember being that 8-year-old girl with a very strong personality. And truth be told, I think “headstrong” and “persistent” are two words that can still describe me as a 38-year-old woman!

Oftentimes, we hear people talk about their “strong-willed child” in a way that makes it seem so negative… as if a child’s will needs to be broken and replaced. But that’s like trying to strip someone of their God-given personality.

I believe that the character qualities of persistence and determination can be such a gift — to your home, to your community, and to the world. That’s why I want to encourage you to stop trying to stifle a child’s strong personality and instead embrace the strength that it can bring.

In this episode, Jesse and I share encouragement for parents who are raising strong kids. I share from the perspective of being a strong kid growing up and we both share from the perspective of raising a child who has a very strong personality.

In This Episode: 

[02:26] Why Swaddle Sacks have been a life-saver recently.

[04:53] I came down with mastitis on Tuesday, so here’s what’s been saving my life.

[07:59] My experience getting a Coronavirus test (Spoiler… it was negative!)

[10:59] A book update on Get Out of Your Head.

[14:07] We’re chatting all about raising strong-willed kids.

[16:21] It’s okay if you can’t relate with your kids, but seeking to understand them is so important.

[17:16] Why rules for an Enneagram 8 are very restrictive.

[19:29] Change your mindset and see the desire for independence as a blessing.

[21:03] Stop using negative labels to define your kids.

[22:07] How studying personality typings can be so beneficial.

[24:26] Celebrate their strengths because they really are gifts.

[26:11] Say yes as often as possible for your child.

[29:45] Don’t overly protect your kids from struggle and failure.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.