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Feel like a failure?

What do you do when you experience failure in your life or your business? One of our wonderful listeners asked how you get back up and keep going after failure, and Jesse and I had a lively and honest discussion around this in this week’s episode of the The Crystal Paine Show.

Failure is a part of life, but it shouldn’t define who we are. For instance, for a long time, Jesse identified as a lawyer and that title made up his identity in many ways. If he failed or if he perceived a failure, that lack would directly impact his identity. 

For many others, they don’t feel like they are good enough. When this is the case, it’s so easy to see failure and setbacks as defining you as a failure personally.

The truth is that true failure only occurs when you stop trying and give up. Until you stop trying, you haven’t failed!

So keep moving and learning and growing from your mistakes. Also, don’t forget to stop and celebrate your wins. It’s so easy to focus on what we’re doing wrong instead of recognizing what we’re doing right.

In This Episode: 

[01:23] What’s saving our lives? Under Armour hoodies and my Sole F80 treadmill.

[07:36] I’m reading Tasting Grace by Melissa d’Arabian.

[12:25] Jesse shares how he gets up and does the next thing after a big fail? 

[16:03] So many people identify as “failures,” how do you separate the act of failure from your overall identity? 

[19:01] Everyone fails and each failure is a lesson learned.

[21:51] True failure is when you stop taking action. Just keep moving forward.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

Building Strong Father-Daughter Relationships

On this week’s episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how to build a strong father-daughter relationship. I brought in my resident expert, Jesse, to give us input. 🙂

(I didn’t mention this on the podcast, but we also asked the girls to both give input on what they feel helps to build a strong relationship and that was some of the basis of what Jesse shared.)

It has been so beautiful to watch Jesse lean in and love his daughters so well as they’ve gotten older. I know there can be a tendency for dads to pull back as girls get older and it can feel somewhat awkward as they are no longer little girls and are blossoming into young women.

In this podcast, I ask Jesse to talk about how he has nurtured relationships with the girls, fostered strong communication and openness, and what he’s done to continue to build into them as they’ve gotten older.

He drops a lot of truth nuggets including the importance of making them feel valued, challenging them but not expecting perfection, and how to get them to want to talk with you.

I hope this conversation encourages you. As always, we welcome your thoughts, constructive criticism, and feedback!

In This Episode: 

[01:24] Soup is saving my life right now and check out the recipes we’ve tried recently.

[03:32] Jesse’s talks about how his Post-It whiteboard gym schedule has made such a difference for him.

[06:44] I share my book recommendation for this week and why it was so impactful to me.

[10:58] Does Jesse feel like he’s felt the need to pull back from the girls as they get older? 

[14:06] Learn what Jesse aims to do by asking the girls the hard questions as they grow up.

[16:22] Take the time to invest in your girls’ friendships as well.

[19:51] Communicating to your kids that they are valued and loved is the key.

[20:24] Affirm their strengths, character, and growth — and focus on the positives.

[22:50] Don’t rescue your kids when they’re struggling. Struggle builds strength.

[25:15] Hear Jesse’s parting wisdom on how to build up young girls.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

Why Jesse and Kathrynne Went to South Africa

As a mom, there’s not much that warms your heart more than seeing your child find such fulfillment in loving on others.

We usually go to South Africa every year to spend time with our friends there and to see the progress and work being done by Take Action Ministry — the ministry that is near and dear to our hearts and the one we are very involved with there. (If you’re interested in reading about previous trips, you can read more and see lots of pictures here.)

I couldn’t go this year because of my pregnancy, but I got to send Jesse and Kathrynne instead and they had the absolute BEST time!
I just couldn’t stop smiling as Jesse sent me pictures when they were there. To see my 14-year-old so happy and at home in the country that has stolen my heart made me beyond thrilled and proud as a parent.

There’s a lot of things we’ve gotten wrong and are getting wrong as parents, but we will never regret the priority we’ve placed on travel and experiencing other countries and cultures. It has so profoundly impacted all of us for so much good.

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I sat down with Jesse and Kathrynne and asked them to share about their trip. I loved getting to hear their perspective, what they experienced, and what they have learned from our time spent in South Africa.

In This Episode: 

[01:19] Jesse and Kathrynne share why they went to go to South Africa.

[02:33] We all talk about what the flights to South Africa are like and the anxiety that sometimes has surrounded these long international flights.

[08:03] Jesse chats about some of the highlights of this year’s trip and how the area has changed so much.

[08:51] What does Take Action Ministry do at the centers and what is the purpose of these centers? 

[13:06] Kathrynne shares her experience with the food prepared and served at the centers.

[15:09] Hear about Kathrynne’s trip highlights.

[18:14] What was different about this trip from the ones taken in the past?

[20:32] We could just give them money, but going and being there is so much more impactful. 

[22:50] How have these trips impacted Kathrynne’s and Jesse’s lives? 

[27:45] Kathrynne ends the conversation with how appreciative she is for all of the opportunities she has in her life.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

How to Finally Break Free from Anxiety & Stress

Need some practical encouragement to move past anxiety, stress, and survival mode? Longing for life of more wholeness? Don’t miss this episode with Aundi Kolber!

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

Okay, I know I’ve said this before about other episodes, but I truly think today’s episode was one of my very favorite podcast recordings to date!

Maybe it had something to do with the fact that Aundi Kolber is a therapist and I felt like I got a therapy session just by spending an hour with her?! 🙂 Listen in to the episode and you’ll see what I mean.

Aundi has a gift of sharing so eloquently and yet also in such a heartfelt manner. She just exudes such peace and calmness, but also such profound wisdom and understanding of how we are wired.

In this episode, we not only talk about what’s saving our lives (I had to laugh that she talked about something related to brain science and I talk about leggings!) and the books we’re reading, but then we dive into some deep heart topics. She shares what it means to Try Softer (the title of her new book), the difference between Big T trauma and little t trauma and how we might be experiencing the aftershocks of little t trauma without even realizing it and this might be at the root of our stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.

Aundi explains thoroughly how the body processes pain — whether physical or emotional. And she provides very concrete suggestions and ideas for how we can start to take steps toward more healing and wholeness.

Whether you feel stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed or whether you know someone who does, this conversation is highly important and one that you do not want to miss. I have thought of it over and over again since we recorded last week and will be taking so many nuggets of truth from it to apply to my everyday life.

In This Episode: 

[00:25] Welcome back! I am so excited to have Aundi Kolber on the show!

[01:06] Aundi shares about a little about her background and family

[03:43] Meaningful walks are saving Aundi’s life — and the brain science she shares here is fascinating! And then, to keep things a little more down to earth (!), I talk about my new favorite leggings.

[09:25] We discuss our current reads, including one written by a therapist and a novel I finished last week. 

[13:08] Why did Aundi write Try Softer? (I loved that she wrote it as a love letter to her younger self!)

[17:20] We talk about the stigma surrounding the word “trauma” and why it’s important to understand if you’ve experienced little t trauma.

[19:27] How can you tell if you’re holding onto the pain of the past and how does it show up in your life?

[23:50] What does it mean to “try softer” and how can we apply this in our every day lives?

[27:37] Aundi shares practical first steps for beginning to break free from stress, anxiety, and survival mode — even if you feel so stuck and overwhelmed that you don’t know how to take the first step!

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

4 Strategies to Survive Stretching Seasons

Are you in a season of life that feels stretching, exhausting, or overwhelming? If so, today’s episode just might really encourage you!

I share 4 strategies for surviving stretching seasons that I’m currently implementing right now in the middle of morning sickness and a really, really full work schedule (gratefully, I’m finished with 3 of the biggest work weeks of my year and things are slowing down now!)

By the way, I intentionally use the word stretching not stressful… and I explain why on the podcast. This change in wording really has helped me to have a different perspective! And I talk about this as the first strategy on the podcast today.

I get really practical in this episode, including talking about why I decided to take medication for my nausea and what is working for me.

In This Episode: 

[00:54] I start off by sharing a story of something I did last week that caused me to freak out and feel stressed. And then I share how I processed through this… and what I learned from it. 

[07:35] What’s saving our lives: GOWOD app and the Preggie Pop Drops. (I’m pretty sure you can guess who chose which!)

[13:35] Jesse doesn’t have a book to share for this episode, but I have been reading The Choosing by Rachelle Dekker.

[16:11] Why I’m using the word stretching versus stressful to describe this season of life.

[19:03] Strategy #1: Change your perspective.

[19:43] Strategy #2: Focus on the barebones basics (we define this in the episode).

[21:42] Strategy #3: Prioritize rest! 

[22:08] Strategy #4: Live one day at a time.

[23:09] I get really practical as I talk about doing your best and how your best is going to look different in different seasons. 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!

My 4-Week Offline Sundays Experiment

Can you believe that I was working every single day of the week most weeks so far in 2019? Yes, it’s true, even though I’m a little embarrassed to admit it. In this week’s podcast episode, I share why I thought this was necessary and why I decided to try taking Sundays off.

Missed previous episodes of The Crystal Paine show? You can listen to them here.

When Jesse and I first got married, we always took Sunday offline. It was a day for us to just enjoy going to church, resting, and being together as a family.

In recent years, I’ve fallen out of that practice (I’m not even exactly sure why, but I did). In addition to going to church and volunteering at church, Sunday became a day for me to also play catchup on a lot of blogging work and emails.

This meant that I was usually working at least some hours every single day of the week. Which I don’t recommend and am a little embarrassed to admit… because it meant I rarely had a stretch of offline time for more than a few hours at a time.

My 4-Week Commitment

I could make a lot of excuses and seemingly valid reasons as to why I “needed” to work on Sunday, but I realized that working 7 days a week wasn’t good for my soul or body or family, so I decided to try something different and make a 4-week commitment to unplug and go offline on Sundays.

In today’s podcast episode, I share really candidly the surprising results of my experiment and how much it has changed my life. (Oh and Jesse also shares about his current morning routine and a type of chair we love. I talk about a book I finished recently and the one food I’ve been loving in my first trimester.)

In This Episode: 

[02:14] Listen in as Jesse shares about his morning routine and an outdoor chair that we love.

[06:13] I tell you about a book I recently finished that goes along so well with this podcast episode.

[09:26] Let’s talk about my Unplugged Sundays Experiment.

[09:59] For years, I justified working on Sunday for a variety of reasons.

[11:30] … but really it was a lack of trust in God and trying to control things in my own strength.

[13:03] Rather than making a big longterm commitment, I did a four-week-long trial of not working on Sunday.

[16:31] The benefits of the time off have been incredible. I share the different surprises that have happened along the way.

[18:06] Why I now feel so much more productive in the 6 days I do work. 

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player we’ll include in the show notes of each episode. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we may receive a small commission — at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for your support!