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Fear, Unknowns, & Courage (some thoughts on COVID-19 & more)

Early Friday morning, Kathrynne (15) got on a plane to fly to Suriname (in South America) for 9 days with a teacher and a small group of girls from school. (This picture was taken at a park there yesterday.)

This is the girl who — just 5 years ago — was scared and completely uncomfortable to be around kids her age. This is the girl who has struggled with so many panic attacks and anxiety. The girl who was incredibly angry with us when we made the decision to put her in school after always homeschooling (she was so fearful of having to be around kids she didn’t know and to be in so many unknown situations all day long). This was the girl who was terrified to get on a plane to South Africa with us just 4 years ago.

It’s our heart’s desire to raise self-sufficient adults, not co-dependent children. So over the past 5 years, we’ve slowly pushed her to do a lot of uncomfortable things, because we knew the only way she would grow wings and fly was if we gently nudged her out of the safety of our little nest.

We often wondered if we were making the right call and we spent a lot of time crying out to God for wisdom and direction for the next step. God has been so faithful to give us wisdom — even when it’s meant making really hard calls (like quitting homeschooling).

We look at her now and see that is was SO worth it — she’s a confident, outgoing 15-year-old with more friends than we can keep track of and a social calendar we struggle to keep up with. A girl who loves Jesus, life, adventure, travel, and people. A girl who excitedly jumped at the chance to go on trip to Suriname (her first international trip without us)!

We’re still finding our way in what it looks like to parent teens. And I know we’ve made plenty of missteps. But we continue to just look to the Lord to give us wisdom for each new day, each new situation, each new unknown… and we trust Him to be faithful!

Also, watching your kids go on their own adventures, jump out of their comfort zone, stretch themselves, and live courageously is one of the most rewarding things as a parent… even if it involves a lot of our own letting go! 😉

Tackling the Timely Topic of Fear

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jesse and I tackle the timely topic of fear. We discuss the current fears over recent tornadoes in our area, COVID-19, political unrest, sending our daughter to Suriname, and a recent situation of a lot of unknowns with potentially fostering a newborn.

If you struggle with fear — especially when it comes to unknowns or your kids — I think this episode will really encourage you. Fear isn’t necessarily a bad thing; it’s how you choose to act as a result of that fear.

In This Episode: 

[01:44] Our area was hit by some devastating tornadoes, which is rare and has shaken up our community. 

[03:33] On top of that, the first case of COVID-19 was reported in our area the day we recorded this. We also just sent our daughter on a plane to spend 9 days in Suriname and we’ve walked through a lot of unknowns in foster care. We’ll talk more about what we’re learning from all of this later on in the show.

[05:14] But first, AT&Ts international plan is saving Jesse’s life right now and lotion is saving my life this week. 

[08:52] To go along with this week’s theme of fear, my book pick is one I highly recommend:Raising Worry-Free Girls

[11:41] We’ve been receiving some amazingly kind reviews on the podcast lately. Thank you!

[14:44] Get ready to dive into fear. First, I share the entire emotional journey we went through while waiting to potentially foster a newborn. (We’re still waiting on the call!)

[19:00] How I let go of the fear and anxiety I was feeling around this whole fostering situation. It wasn’t easy, but it was so good for me to work through.

[21:13] We discuss the emotional turmoil our community is feeling with the tornadoes, COVID-19, and political unrest and we share lessons and thoughts on fear. 

[23:31] Did you know fear can actually be helpful and isn’t necessarily a bad thing?

[24:25] Fear can either propel you to healthy action or paralyze you from taking action.

[26:20] We want to raise adults. Letting Kathrynne go on this trip and prep for this trip is one more step in the right direction.

[28:38] How are you going to act or react when fear arises?

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

The power of a One Minute Pause

Feeling burdened, weary, tired, or heavy-hearted today? Try the One-Minute Pause! Here’s how it works:

  • Set a timer for 60 seconds.
  • Take a few deep breaths.
  • Then, verbally release the weight of what you are carrying. “I release my stress or worry over my job to You, God.” “I release my fear over my child’s future to You, God.” “I let it go.” Literally let yourself breathe out your fear, stress, worry, tension and breathe in God’s care and carrying of You.

This simple practice isn’t going to solve all of your problems, but it can certainly help you feel a little calmer and remind you that you don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

God sees you. He cares about you. And He is big enough to carry your heaviest burdens. You are not alone.

Need more encouragement to stop feeling burned out and get your joy back? Be sure to listen to this week’s podcast episode with John Eldredge.

We talked about simple, sustainable practices (like the One Minute Pause) he implemented in his life a few years ago when he found himself feeling completely burned out, tethered to his phone and email, and unable to really stop and savor his life.

In This Episode: 

[00:57] I ask John Eldredge to introduce himself and share more about his books and ministry.

[04:43] What inspired John to write his newest book? 

[06:11] John talks about realizing that his soul was running dry.

[07:50] We discuss how hard was it for him to untether himself from his phone and email and the basic steps he took to get his job back.

[11:31] Learn about how the One Minute Pause has impacted John’s day. 

[13:56] The One Minute Pause isn’t just for adults; you could do it with your kids, too! Check out the One Minute Pause App.

[17:08] Benevolent Detachment — what does this mean?

[22:59] Why naming your stressors out loud and letting them go helps turn your day and mindset around. 

[23:44] John encourages us with practical ways to drink beauty in for your soul.

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

How to Fall in Love With Your Life

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Today’s culture is often one that feels so fast-paced. We are busy and strapped for time.

What is this frenetic pace doing to our souls? I’ve been reading Get Your Life Back by John Eldredge and the first chapter of his book and the questions he asked inspired this episode.

Many of you know that I’m currently working on a new book. As part of the writing process, I’m going through old Instagram posts — many that I wrote 4 to 5 years ago. It was fascinating to me to read so many of these posts and recognize that there was a constant theme of me feeling how overwhelmed and exhausted.

I realized that I’m no longer living in that space. Yes, there are still times when I’m tired. Yes, there are days when I bite off more than I can chew. But in reading John Eldredge’s book and his questions on how to rate your soul, I was so encouraged.

The changes I’ve made to slow down, prioritize rest, take care of my health, and delegate have made such a huge difference in the state of my soul!

In this episode, Jesse and I share some of the thought-provoking questions that John asks, such as:

  • How often do you feel light hearted?
  • Are you excited about your future?
  • Do you feel deeply loved?
  • When was the last time you felt carefree?

We also talk about holding grief and joy at the same time, letting go of burdens that aren’t yours to carry, how our perspective can change so much, and the need to celebrate life more.

In addition, we give you an update on Flu B, Thin Mints, our new ear thermometer, why I love my FitBit so much, and a book I recently re-read.

In This Episode: 

[00:25] Welcome back! We are so excited to be flu and fever-free.

[03:55] Jesse can’t find the other box of Thin Mints (I know where they are and I finally did tell him on the episode!), but did you know that Thin Mints keep in the freezer? 

[07:16] Our new Braun Ear Thermometer saved our lives this week. 

[09:38] My Fitbit Alta HR is saving my life this year.

[13:13] I recently re-read Eat That Frog.

[16:33] Let’s talk about falling in love or back in love with your life.

[18:44] John Eldredge asks several questions at the beginning of his book that helps you score your soul. Listen and rate them for yourself.

[21:01] I’ve been going through Instagram posts for my book and I noticed a trend 4 to 5 years ago… I was constantly overwhelmed, overburdened, and just tired.

[25:00] Is it possible to hold sorrow in one hand and joy in the other? Are you trying to carry burdens that aren’t yours to bear?

[28:51] A challenge to you.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

“How do you stay so positive?”

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“How do you stay so positive?”

I’ve been asked this question by multiple people in multiple ways recently so Jesse and I decided to devote a podcast episode to the topic.

I thought it would be insightful for us to both talk about this, because I tend to be more of glass half full kind of person while Jesse is more of a glass half empty person.

But it’s been so cool to watch Jesse intentionally work to develop more of a positive outlook on life. He shares how he has done that and how it has impacted him.

We also talk about what it looks like to choose our attitude, practical ways we seek to do this, why gratitude can make such a difference, how to feed your souls with good things, and practical things we do to uplift our souls.

In addition to talking about staying positive, we also talk about dry shampoo, Thin Mints, our kids’ thoughts on how read alouds have benefited their lives, why the kids want to limit the baby’s exposure to screens, the flu, and the Enneagram. As usual, it was quite a diverse array of topics!

In This Episode: 

[00:25] Greetings from the flu-infested Paine house.

[01:53] To keep himself fortified, Jesse decided to get some Thin Mint Girl Scout cookies. 😉

[02:44] A listener asks: Are you trying to hold on to your kids’ childhoods through bringing back read aloud time?

[05:41] All three of our kids have very strong opinions and plans for investing in the baby’s life.

[08:12] My book for this week was The Path Between Us. This opened up some new methods of communication for Jesse and me.

[11:14] Dry shampoo is saving my life. Learn why.

[13:32] How can you stay positive when things are hard? Is it easier for some people? 

[15:53] Jesse feels like he may be wired to be more negative, but you get to choose your attitude.

[18:23] Even with the week they’ve had while being sick with the flu, the kids still try to see the positive as well. It’s an intentional choice to be positive.

[20:36] If you’re not a naturally positive person, you have to work that muscle and it’ll get easier.

[23:02] Counting your blessings and being intentional about taking them in and naming them helps bring positivity to the forefront.

[25:06] Keep in mind that someone else likely would love to be in your shoes for any number of your blessings. 

[26:00] An important word on when to seek professional help.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

How I Read 15 Books in January

“How did you manage to read 15 books in January?”

I’ve gotten this question over and over again the past two weeks. Truth be told, I had to stop and ask that question myself when I got to the end of January and realized I had finished 15 books in the first month of the year!

As I reflected on the last month, I realized that there are 4 tweaks I made in January to how I approached reading that made a big difference… even though they were really minor tweaks.

How I’m Fitting In More Reading Time

1. I stopped answering Instagram messages (or getting distracted on Instagram) while on the treadmill and instead I use 20-30 minutes of my walking time each day to read a book.

2. I began setting weekly reading goals that I’m posting on MoneySavingMom.com. This has been highly motivational for me to set weekly goals instead of yearly goals.

3. I started listening to audiobooks again and try to get in at least an hour of audio listening while cleaning, cooking, getting ready in the morning, or driving by myself.

4. I revived family read aloud time again — something that we’d let go of in recent years.

In this episode, I share more about how I’m making each of these tweaks happen and the way that they are making such a difference in our life.

In This Episode: 

[02:46] I’ve been reading Originals by Adam Grant and had several takeaways.

[07:38] We recently got a couple of suggestions from our listeners. Listen in!

[09:16] Jesse has been geeking out on our new soundboard.

[11:15] My Spalding leggings have been saving my life.

[13:01] I dive into how I read more. Specifically how I read 15 books in January.

[15:53] How reading instead of scrolling Instagram has made such a difference.

[17:32] My practical suggestions for fitting in more audiobook listening.

[20:12] Why (and how!) we started prioritizing family reading time again.

[22:55] The difference that tracking my reading and setting weekly reading goals has made for me.

[24:27] Bonus tip: How reading multiple books at once allows me to read more quickly too.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.

Answering all of your pregnancy questions

Over the past few months, we’ve gotten lots of questions about this very unexpected and surprise pregnancy. So we decided to devote a podcast episode specifically to answering these questions.

We had so much fun answering them in this week’s podcast — and talking about the books we’re reading and two things that are saving our lives right now. In this episode, we share:

  • A body wash I’m loving
  • How Jesse finally came to the dark side and joined me in loving joggers
  • Books we’re reading and loving right now
  • Our thoughts on the big age gap between Silas and this baby (11 years)
  • How having older kids has changed our perspective on this pregnancy
  • Why we’re going to an OB instead of a midwife this time
  • What medication I took to help my nausea
  • Differences in this pregnancy versus my other pregnancies
  • What I’m doing differently this time around — especially when it comes to postpartum
  • Little snippets of the birth stories of our other three kids.
  • And a lot more!


In This Episode: 

[03:06] Aromatherapy Sleep body wash is saving my life this week.

[05:29] Jesse’s finally realized why I love joggers so much!

[06:45] What Jesse has been reading: Hunter Killer and E-Myth Real Estate Investor.

[07:57] My passionate thoughts about The Whole-Brain Child.

[12:47] The pregnancy apps I’ve been using

[15:33] Our thoughts on the age gap between the older three kids and the new baby.

[20:09] Why you should give yourself grace around the fatigue that being pregnant brings.

[21:20] Hear my advice for dealing with anxiety while pregnant.

[23:19] Jesse shares his advice on how men can support women through the course of pregnancy.

[25:11] There have been a lot of firsts with this pregnancy, like taking medications and having an OB instead of a midwife.

[28:28] Listen as I share the stories of the kids’ births and how they’ve affected my outlook with this birth.

Links and Resources:

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

The podcast is available on iTunesAndroidStitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)

Ready to dive in and listen? Hit the player above or search for “The Crystal Paine Show” on your favorite podcast app.