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A Peek Into My Life This Past Week (+ our current daily schedule)

Welcome to my weekly post where we take a break from money-related posts and I share about what I’m loving right now and give you a little peek into our life from the past week.

What I Read Recently

Books read this week:

  • Life After — a great read suggested to me by Anne Bogel (You know it was good because I stayed up until 1 am to finish it!)
  • The Unhurried Homeschooler — some of this book felt a little too legalistic for me and some of her suggestions/principles would not work well for certain of my kids because of their personality types, but I still thought there was some valuable information in this book and would recommend it if you are a homeschooler or are seriously considering homeschooling. (However, as always, remember there are no one-size-fits-all plans! Do what works best for your own family!)

{See my Reading Goals for 2017. Also, see the 61 books I’ve read so far in 2017 here.}

What Our Schedule Looks Like Right Now

So many of you have asked for details on our current schedule. Because you’ve begged, I’m going to share it, but with this caveat: even though this has been working for us, I reserve the right to change it anytime if it stops working!

6-7:40 am — Up, ready for the day, breakfast, and family time.

7:40 am-1 pm — Drop kids off at school & go to work on blog/business stuff at my employee’s house while Jesse homeschools Kaitlynn (they usually make dinner together during this time, too).

1-2:30 pm — Homeschool Kaitlynn (Jesse leaves to spend the afternoon working/running errands/going to Crossfit, etc.)

2:30-4 pm — Pick kids up from school, cleaning/laundry/chore time.

4-6 pm — Free time (I usually hang with the kids, finish a few tasks, and have time to chill or take a nap).

6 pm — Dinner and family Bible time.

6:30-8 pm — Jesse hang out with the kids and I finish blogging work OR family time/evening activities.

8-9 pm — Kids to bed, hang out with Jesse.

9-10:30 pm — Exercise, shower, reading, to bed.

There you have it! Remember: this is what is working for our family, right now in this season. It’s subject to change when it stops working! 😉

What I’m Celebrating

Almost exactly one year ago, I gave up coffee.

I never thought I could do it. It was excruciating for the first few weeks and I actually cried during my detox because I missed it so much.

But one year later, I don’t even miss it. I still love the smell, but I have discovered I’m so much calmer and less anxious without it. Plus, I sleep so much better!

You guys. I never thought I could survive and THRIVE without my daily doses of caffeine in a cup.

But I did. I have. And I AM! And it makes me feel so empowered to try other things that I never thought I could do!

What I’ve Been Pondering

No matter what I say or do or don’t say or don’t do, someone is bothered, upset, offended, or disappointed. I’m sure you’ve experienced that, too, in your life!

Someone asked me the other day how I deal with negative comments. Here’s what has helped me:

1) Don’t be surprised or offended. Part of the nature of putting out words on the internet means that not everyone is going to like or agree with you. Accept this.

2) Look for the nuggets of truth. Ask myself, “Is there truth in their words that I need to pay attention to?”

3) Don’t defend myself. I have a policy to never defend myself on the internet. Sometimes, things need to be clarified or responded to — but I commit to wait to respond until I can do it with grace and love for the person.

4) Believe the best. Always assume someone is using a kind tone of voice when they write and have your best interests at heart. Don’t make up stories or read into things.

5) Remember the truth. When I stay focused on my identity in Christ and how much I am loved and forgiven by Him, I don’t have to feel stressed, upset, or hurt by negative comments from others. I can rest in His finished work on the Cross and the fact that I am enough in Him!

What I’m Learning as a Mom

The knock came on our bedroom door and I was instantly annoyed. It was after bedtime, it had been a long day, and I was really, really ready for the kids to be asleep.

I opened the door in a bit of a huff and almost said gruffly, “What are you doing?!? Don’t you know it’s bedtime? Get in bed!!”

But before those words could come out of my mouth, I stopped myself and looked into my child’s eyes. And I saw sadness and hurt written all over their face.

“Can I come in?” They asked sheepishly. All of my annoyance melted away as my child shared their heart with me while cuddled up on my bed.

About 20 minutes later, they headed back to their bed with a smile on their face. You guys. I almost missed this beautiful conversation and opportunity to love on my child!

Motherhood is exhausting, I get that. As an introvert, it’s easy to feel people-d out and just want space. And I think it’s important to take time to refuel and recharge — but not at the expense of our kid’s hearts.

Here’s what I’m reminding myself: really look into their eyes. Really pay attention to what’s going on in their hearts. And be willing to bend the bedtime rules a little sometimes in favor of communicating to a child how much they are loved.

What’s Been on My Heart Recently

You guys. I’ve waited to say anything because I didn’t want to just add noise to the online space. But after a very heartfelt conversation with our kids about the events of last weekend, the words came and they were this…

Ultimately, I can’t fix or change anything or anyone else but me. The racial divides and hatred and anger… I can’t magically take it away.

But here’s what I CAN do: I can look for those who are lonely, left out, and hurting. I can look into their eyes, let them know that they matter, and offer my friendship.

I can raise my kids to know that ALL people are worthy of kindness and love. That ostracizing and marginalizing is not okay. That it only hurts.

I can pursue peace, believe the best, love wholeheartedly, give generously, and extend grace willingly.

I can’t change the world, but I CAN go out and love my neighbor and encourage my kids to do the same. Will you join me?

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16 Comments

  • sarah says:

    how do you like working out at night? I need to find time in my daily schedule and it looks like it may need to be night as well. Do you feel like it keeps you up later from all the adrenaline?

    thank you!

    • I thought I wouldn’t like it at all and it wouldn’t work, but I’m really falling in love with it! I love that it’s quiet and I can just wind down and enjoy that peaceful time in the evening. Since I’ve planned in about 45 minutes to shower and wind down after I work out, I’ve found that that’s enough time so that when I get in bed, I have no trouble falling asleep!

  • Amy Medeiros says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart. I so appreciate your honesty; you often give me good food for thought and help me know I’m not alone with some of the challenges I face.

    You introduced me to Katie Ganshert’s books and I’ve read a couple of them now, including Life After. It was good! Have you read anything by Katherine Center? She’s my new favorite. Not sure if her books are your style but I find them very engaging. I just finished Happiness for Beginners and got ridiculously excited when she replied to my comment on Goodreads. 🙂

  • Jaime says:

    Looking at others’ schedules motivates me to start and maintain mine! My daughter starts preschool next month *sob* so now I need to figure out a new routine to follow. =) I can actually start running during the day instead of after bedtime, which has been rough! Did it take you awhile to adjust to exercising at night?

  • Raquel says:

    Thank you for sharing your current schedule. This is our first year we will no longer be homeschooling. I am nervous about the kids doing sports and activities because I feel they will cut into our precious afterschool hours. Do you mind sharing how your family handles this? Are the kids playing sports still, ice skating etc? Thanks

    • We’ve cut WAY back on activities this year because the girls have requested that they take a break from it and Silas is only doing rec baseball instead of the travel team. I don’t know how long this will last… we’re just taking things one month at a time right now! 🙂

  • Melissa says:

    “I can pursue peace, believe the best, love wholeheartedly, give generously, and extend grace willingly.”

    Amazing words to live by. Today is our first morning of homeschool and your words will be shared with my students they coincide with the first day lesson I put together for today.

    I wish I had your energy to work out at night. We are all different I feel for me it would keep me up

    • Thanks so much for your encouragement! And YES! Do what works for you! I thought that workout at night would *never* work for me… but I’ve been pleasantly surprised to discover how much I’m falling in love with it.

  • Kim says:

    How did you give up coffee? What did you replace it with? I am wanting to give up coffee but it is a addiction. Crazy to say that!

    • I did it cold turkey as part of a detox and it was HARD. I committed to just push through for two months, had some good accountability in place (my nutritionist), and drank a LOT of water. I also made sure that I stopped drinking it during a week when I didn’t have a lot going on because I felt gross, had a massive headache, and wanted to sleep about 10 hours every night!

  • Meagan says:

    What a beautiful teapot and setup! Almost makes me want to switch to tea… almost!

  • Tammy says:

    I loved your response to negative comments! Yes! We always assume the worst intentions or a negative tone. I’m going to shift my thinking. Also going to use this in dealing with my teenage son. In his case, I need to ignore his tone sometimes…because I know what is in his heart even if it doesn’t come out of his mouth that way. I need to stop assuming the worst with him and not respond until I can do so with love in my heart. But it is really hard! Thank you, I needed this today.

    • I’m so glad that this encouraged you!

      “I need to ignore his tone sometimes…because I know what is in his heart even if it doesn’t come out of his mouth that way.”

      Oh! That is SO good!!

  • I have so been there with hurting others. It seems like no matter what I do or say, someone ends up getting their feelings hurt. While it is no fun to know I have caused hurt, I have also come to the place where I know that sometimes it’s not really what I’ve said that they are reacting to. It is other things they have gone through or hurts they have had before me that have caused them to react so strongly. I can recognize something I have said has rubbed them the wrong way, and I can apologize that it hurt them. But I don’t have to be sorry it was said at all if I had a pure heart. I can feel bad it hurt them, without feeling bad it was said if it was truth.

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