On Perfectionism & Disappointing Readers

Can I just be really honest with you tonight? You know what one of the hardest parts about blogging has been for me?

It’s that some readers want me to be perfect.

I know they’d probably never say out loud, “I expect you to be perfect,” but if I admit that I failed at something or am struggling with something, they are disappointed and they voice that disappointment.

Here’s the thing: I understand that part of blogging in a public forum is the fact that I’m choosing to let people into my life. I’m choosing to open up myself and our family and our choices to other people’s really honest opinions.

I get that. And I own that.

But at the same time, in the past, it’s held me back from sharing candidly about certain topics that I’d really like to blog about. Why? Because I know that writing about certain topics means other people are going to voice their opinions over my decisions and or be disappointed in my short-comings.

More and more, though, I’m becoming okay with it. Because I realize that it’s exhausting to try to please everyone.

I don’t have it altogether.

I sometimes yell at my kids.

I get frustrated with my husband.

I don’t always want to make meals from scratch.

I sometimes (usually?) let my laundry pile up way too high.

I’m often running late.

I have many moments where I feel so very inadequate to be sharing anything in a blog post or a book or on a stage because I feel like I’m such a mess myself.

A few days ago, I wrote a post about quitting my cutting back on caffeine goal for this month. I know it was the right decision and most of you cheered me on in it or even expressed relief that I gave up my lofty goal.

A few people weren’t so thrilled with me. They wrote in annoyed that commentors would be supportive of me and a some even strongly chided me for not following through with my goal.

I’m sure these readers meant well, but in each case, they didn’t know me or my family personally. In addition, they didn’t know that the next few weeks are some of the fullest weeks I’ll probably have all year long (we have multiple trips + some big projects to complete) and I can’t be dragging or running on weird sleep patterns. I have to do what’s best for my family and myself and I have follow my own advice to give myself grace — even if it means that I disappoint a few readers.

What I’m learning, though, is that when I share my short-comings and struggles, I may disappoint a few people. But ultimately, I will encourage many, many more people.

It helps others know that they aren’t alone in their struggles. We’re in this together.

We’re learning right along with each other. We’re stumbling. We’re falling down. We’re making mistakes. And we’re here to encourage each other to get back up, keep pressing forward, keep doing the best you can do with the time and resources we have.

Progress Not Perfection

And here’s the truth: I’d rather disappoint a few people and be a completely honest and authentic blogger who shares my struggles and success than try to pretend like I have it altogether and make the majority of people feel like they can’t measure up.

None of us have it altogether. None of us are perfect. But we can all learn from each other, inspire each other, and cheer each other on — in both our struggles and successes.

When we are honest and authentic with each other, we are all stronger for it. Who’s with me? :)

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Cents of Style: Jewelry, Scarves, Flats, and more just $5.35 shipped!

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Cents of Style is holding a HUGE Clearance Sale for this week’s Fashion Friday! You’ll find jewelry, scarves, flats, and much more for just $5.95 each PLUS shipping is free. Use the coupon code FALLSALE at checkout to get an additional 10% off, dropping each item down to $5.35!

Here are some of the cute sale items included in this sale:

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These items are all on clearance, so quantities are limited. Don’t forget, use the coupon code FALLSALE at checkout to order items on clearance for just $5.35.

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Rare! Southern Living Magazine: Two-year subscription for $19.95!

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Here’s a rare deal! Get a two-year subscription to Southern Living magazine for $19.95 with coupon code MONEYSAVING. If you’re thinking ahead to Christmas gifts, this might be a great idea for someone on your list!

About Southern Living Magazine

Southern Living Magazine has been a keystone of Southern culture since its creation in 1966, when it was read mainly by farmers from the South. It features articles on Southern cooking, home planning and decorating, gardening, and even travel. Since the magazine itself is aimed at people living in the South, readers know that they are getting a real glimpse of what life is like in the South.

This offer expires Friday night 10/24/14 at 12:00 AM (midnight) EST.

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Gretchen’s $10 Target Shopping Trip

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Target Shopping Trip

Transaction #1

The following were a part of the Buy 3 participating products, Get $5 Target gift card:

1 Icy Hot Gel – $4.99
1 Icy Hot Advanced Relief – $5.49
1 Allegra Anti-Itch Cream – $4.59
Used 2 $1/1 printable here and here
And used $3/2 Target printable
And used Free $5 Target gift card when you buy $15 in personal care

Total with tax ($0.16): $10.23, Received 2 $5 Target gift cards

Transaction #2

2 Pull-Ups – $7.99 each
Used 2 $2.25/1 printable (no longer available)
And used 2 $2/1 printable

Used gift cards from Transaction #1

Free after coupons and gift cards

Total for both transactions before coupons and sales: $33.21

Total for both transactions after coupons, sales and gift cards: $10.23

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How I’m Helping My Daughter’s Special Needs via Swagbucks, Surveys, and Coupon Apps

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Testimonial from Samantha

About 9 months ago, we found out that my daughter had autism, it was a shock and has been something we have spent these last 9 months dealing with, as well as proactively seeking treatment for her.

We have gone the traditional routes with speech, occupational, and physical therapies for her (which are thankfully covered by insurance) as well as the biomedical route.

We also immediately started her on a Gluten-free, Casein-free diet. It is expensive but I have been able to find great deals using the coupons and match-up from your weekly Organic and Natural coupon posts.

One thing that kept coming up in my web research was a cookbook called “Special Diets for Special Kids“.  I really wanted this cookbook, but couldn’t justify the splurge on our already tight budget — so I check my Swagbucks and saw that I had enough gift cards to cash out for $25 (which was enough to pay for the book!)

Another route I have been researching (and was happy to see your post on) was essential oils. I am trying go avoid medications whenever possible, but still keep my family healthy.

While we are somewhat obsessive about hand washing and have started taking a daily multivitamin and even probiotics, I wanted to try some essential oils too. I have been able to purchase “Essential Oils for the Healthy Child” as well as few synergy blends from Plant Therapy using my various on-line earnings, as well as a sample pack from Native American Nutritionals.

So how have I been able to make money online?

Most of the ideas below came directly from your website!!

1. Swagbucks:

I try to run the Swagbucks TV app on my phone or tablet throughout the day as well as do the Daily Poll, Encrave, NOSO, and Discover Content.

2. Surveys:

I have also signed up with several survey companies including Pinecone, MyPoints, Opinion Outpost, Survey Spot, Inbox Dollars, and MySurvey.

While I don’t do those every day or even every week, when I get a free moment or while I’m watching TV with my husband, I will do a few surveys. I have earned about $10 or more from each of those survey companies — which I then cash out to my PayPal account.

3. Coupon Apps:

My final avenue of income as a SAHM is coupon apps such as Ibotta, Jingit, Shopmium, Checkout 51, and Saving Star.

I check each of those after a trip to the grocery store and upload receipts to those for matching offers. Most of those have a PayPal option as well, which I often choose.

This has been a hard year for us, both emotionally and financially, with little money to throw around. But with using my precious free time (I don’t have much as a mommy to 2 preschoolers and an infant) I have been able to make a bit of extra cash to purchase some helpful items for my daughter and my family as a whole.

Thank you!

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Amazon Mom: New Members Can Get 50% Off Huggies, Babyganics and Enfamil!

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If you’re not already a member of Amazon Mom, you can sign up for a fee trial and take advantage of their new promotion for 50% Off Huggies Diapers, Babyganicf, and Enfamil!

  • Sign up for Amazon Mom between now and November 3, 2014.
  • Order one box of Huggies, one Babyganics product, and one Enfamil product from this page by December 3, 2014 and get 50% off.

You can cancel your free trial at the end of 30 days, or choose to continue for just $99 per year. Amazon Prime members can add Amazon Mom for free.

Thanks, The Savvy Bump!

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