That thing others are shaming you for? Do it anyway.

The thing that others are shaming you for? Do it anyway.

“You have such crooked teeth! You really should get braces.”

“Why do you make such weird faces in your pictures? It’s annoying!”

“You have such an ugly ‘smile’! I can’t believe you post selfies here. You should be embarrassed.”

All of those remarks — and more! — have been left in comments here and on Facebook in the last few weeks. Most of them were from the same two people who apparently are on a mission to get me to stop posting selfies.

I’ve just been deleting the comments as they come in and didn’t plan to mention them in a post because I don’t like to give trolls or rude commentors a platform here. My policy has always been that if your comment is shaming, harsh, or sharply critical, I promptly remove it as I want to keep this place upbeat and encouraging.

That thing that others are shaming you for? Do it anyway.

However, when I deleted yet another comment this morning about my “dumb selfie faces”, I could keep silent no longer and this post just bubbled forth.

You see, posting a selfie might seem very inconsequential to some of you. For me, being brave enough to take and then share selfies this past year has been monumental.

Why? Because it’s something that I ran kicking and screaming from for years.

I was embarrassed that I don’t have a great smile. I was embarrassed of sometimes dorky faces of my jaw and my crooked teeth and my overbite and my skin that was prone to breakouts and the fact that I don’t know how to do makeup or shape my eyebrows right.

For years, I hated the fact that I wasn’t photogenic. I was so self-conscious and insecure, that whenever a camera came out, I’d be so nervous, I wouldn’t be able to smile. My mouth would quiver. My hands would shake. I’d break out in sweat. And I just plain couldn’t smile sincerely.

That thing that others are shaming you for? Do it anyway.

I remember the night I was supposed to get my senior pictures taken. There were a group of us getting individual pictures done and when my turn came, I froze and couldn’t smile. The photographer tried over and over again to no avail.

I was so embarrassed and frustrated with myself. And ever since then, I’ve shied away from cameras because I didn’t want to suffer that same humiliation again.

When I started blogging 10 years ago, I found that it was such a safe outlet for a shy, introverted, insecure unphotogenic girl like me. It allowed me to mostly hide behind my computer screen. To carefully pick and choose any pictures I showed to the public. To take 46 different pictures in hopes of getting a decent shot.

The more I hid behind my computer screen, though, the less authentic I felt. I didn’t want to photoshop my life. I didn’t want to live life behind a smokescreen.

That thing that others are shaming you for? Do it anyway.

I wanted to be real… even though I know that it would mean sharing the good and the not-so-good. Even though I knew it would be opening up myself for criticism. Even though I knew not every would like the real, sometimes dorky, sometimes unphotogenic, me.

As I’ve stopped believing lies about myself and starting living under the truth, it’s given me more and more confidence to just be me. To stop worrying about what people would think. To stop caring whether I was going to be criticized. To stop stressing over whether I was going to disappoint someone.

And little bit by little bit, I’ve been brave enough to step out from behind the safety of the computer screen and be authentically me.

That’s meant accepting speaking engagements. Blogging about imperfections. Instagramming real-life stuff. Filming videos. And yes, getting brave enough to start showing my face in many more pictures.

Posting a selfie publicly represents something much deeper than the picture itself. It’s a testament to the work that’s happened in my heart, to the confidence that has grown in my soul, to the acceptance I have for exactly who God has made me to be — imperfections and all.

So when those recent comments have come over and over again, attacking me for how I look and how I smile, it really and truly hasn’t phased me. Instead, it’s encouraged me to realize how much I’ve grown in confidence and it’s also motivated me to keep posting the real-life, imperfect stuff.

The thing someone is shaming you for? Do it anyway.

The world needs to see that just because I happen to have a large number of people reading what I write online doesn’t mean that I in any sense am all perfect and polished and put-together. Nobody has it all together and nobody just floats effortlessly through life with flawless skin, perfect smiles, and zero struggles.

Now, let me be clear: I don’t share this post with you because I want you to criticize the few people who are on a Stop the Selfie Crusade. Honestly, I pray for them and hurt for them because I have a feeling that their unkind comments are probably coming from their own place of hurt.

I also don’t share this because I need your affirmation. Truthfully, I don’t. I know who I am in Christ. I know the truth that I am enough. And I really can stand confidently in that.

I am writing this post tonight, because I have a feeling that some of you out there can relate to my struggles. Maybe you have no problem at all when it comes to smiling or showing your face in pictures, but perhaps you struggle with feeling like you don’t measure up somehow.

Maybe you had a really humiliating situation that forever cemented in your head that you weren’t good enough at X.

Maybe you’ve been shamed by someone close to you regarding your weight or your appearance or your skills or your mothering or your “inabilities”.

And it’s cut you deeply. So deep, in fact, that ever since then, you’ve avoided that thing at all costs.

That thing that someone's shaming you for? Do it anyway.

Can I encourage you to stop believing the lies & start camping on the truth? Can I gently admonish you not to let shaming words from others dictate how you live and hold you back?

Be brave. Be YOU. The world needs your gifts, your story, and your unique perspective.

And every time you see me post a selfie, can it be a reminder to you to keep putting yourself out there, keeping stepping outside your comfort zone, keep pushing forward little bit by little bit?

Let’s be a community of people who don’t let shaming words get the best of us. Let’s camp on the truth, walk in confidence knowing that we are enough as we are, and then let’s bravely face our fear gremlins head on — imperfect selfies and all.

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My interview with John Stossel on Fox Business (video clip)

My interview on Fox Business with John Stossel

For those of you who asked to see my segment that aired on Fox Business on Friday night with John Stossel, they’ve uploaded the clip of my interview to their site here.

And I know this is very controversial subject, so before you jump to conclusions and think that I think everyone should do what I’ve done or that I believe credit cards are evil, be sure to read this followup post I wrote on Why I Don’t Think Credit Cards Are Evil.

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48-Hour Giveaway: Table-Time Look and Learn Tablecloth (12 Winners)

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Want to encourage your kids to practice their math skills and to foster some great conversation around the dinner table? Check out the Table-Time Look & Learn Mostly Math Tablecoth!

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This tablecloth is designed for kids around ages 18 months to 6 years old and includes 20+ math lessons for pre-K to Kindergarten math levels.

The “Mostly Math” tablecloth covers:

  • Comparisons, counting, addition and subtraction
  • Hours, days, months, seasons
  • Names of common and uncommon shapes
  • Greater than, less than
  • Plus one and minus one counting
  • Counting to 50 by 1’s, 5’s and 10’s.
  • Counting backwards from 50
  • and much more!

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Our kids LOVE this tablecloth. We’ve used it multiple times on the Kid’s Table when having guests over and it’s sparked some fun conversation!

This tablecloth measures 52″ x 72″ and works on rectangular or oblong tables seating four to six. Consult the size guide for more info. It’s made from PEVA – a PVC-free material for your child’s health.

Would you like to win a free Table-Time Look & Learn Mostly Math Tablecoth? Click on the graphic below and type in your name and email address to be entered to win one. This giveaway ends Wednesday, July 1, at 11:59 pm, CST. 12 winners will be chosen and posted next week.

Enter the Giveaway

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Giveaways Galore

Out of 1,427 entries, the winners of the Raw Spice Bar subscription are:

Robin (robslp@)
Mariah (mariahrds@)
Jennifer (jryalls@)
Linda (lolsen@)

All winners should have received an email with instructions to claim your prize.

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Want some encouragement & accountability to Make Over Your Mornings?

Need some encouragement to get your mornings in better shape?Instagram photo from GoddessMychele

Have you purchased a copy of my 14-Day Make Over Your Mornings course yet? If not, go grab your copy here.

If you’re looking for extra accountability and encouragement as you go through the course, here are two options for you:

#1: Private Facebook Group

There’s a private Facebook Page available here with over 1100 members and they are going through the course together again, beginning with Day 1 today. This Facebook is run by my friend, Caroline.

Sign up for the private Facebook Group here.

Want some encouragement and accountability to Make Over Your Mornings?

#2 Public Facebook Page

You can also join my new Make Over Your Mornings public Facebook Page. I started it as a place to share daily tidbits, articles, quotes, and more to encourage you to use your mornings and your days well and to life life with more intention.

You can follow the Make Over Your Mornings Facebook Page here.

I’ve been so blown away and blessed by your kind notes and comments and emails sharing how this course has made such a difference in your home and life. I’m so grateful! And thank you for spreading the word about it to your friends who you feel would also find it helpful!

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Get two Mossimo Maxi Skirts for just $14.98 total!

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This HOT deal is back again!

Target just released another Cartwheel coupon good for 50% off Mossimo Supply Maxi Skirts. This coupon is valid through July 4, 2015 and can be used on up to 4 skirts.

Get two Mossimo Maxi Skirts for just $14.98 total!

These are priced at $19.99 each, but are on sale Buy One, Get One 50% off, so if you buy two and use the 50% off coupon, you’ll get both for just $14.98 total! What a deal!

Get two Mossimo Maxi Skirts for $14.98 total!

I bought two skirts the last time this deal was available and love them. They are the perfect size and fit for me and will be worn over and over again.

Thanks to Clip Your Cash for the deal and second photo in this post!

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